So I am 29 and not married, but I really want a family. I am in a long term relationship and am not sure she is "the one". She is great and I love her very much, but certain family values are a little different (I think a mother should be home with her kids...she thinks daycare is fine. etc). I am not the worlds greatest dater so I don't want to get back in the scene, fearing it will take me a while to find another girl...date her....get engaged....get married...have kids. If I met her tomorrow that would still put me at like 35 years old. I don't want to miss the chance to build a family....what do I do?
2006-12-17 14:11:38 · 8 answers · asked by allcharm97 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do us all a favor and don't reproduce because you are too frickin' lazy to get back in the dating scene.
2006-12-17 14:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Volunteer to stay home with the kids yourself. It's perfectly acceptable for a father to be a stay-at-home-dad, and you should never ask someone to do something you're not willing to do yourself. I agree--SOMEone should stay home with kids. A grandparent or even a nanny is better than daycare. Daycare is a large part of the problem with the world today. I'm not getting into that here though, since I have a college term-paper's worth of arguments to back that.
2006-12-17 14:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by rainchaser77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure you two can come to some common ground. Like she stay at home with the kids until they are 2-3 something like that or she can work for home.
BTW - I'm 30 and have no kids. Plus, I'm a woman. So you can only imagine the remarks and ridicule that I receive on a constant. Don't let your age pressure you into something that you'll regret.
2006-12-17 14:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by gloried 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't have the same or even close family values you should not have kids with her. You need to be sure you are with "the one". You would be better off to be a bit older when you start your family then have an miserable relationship just to have kids.
2006-12-17 14:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love her very much and she feels the same about u, then go for it. dont start all over because your values are different, finding that exact person , chances are slim to none. as far as your differences, find a happy medium!
2006-12-17 14:19:55 · answer #5 · answered by 69mph 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend family counseling as this is a big step and you need to be sure, there are enough unwanted children in this world please do not make one more
2006-12-17 14:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dosen't sound as if you are mentally ready so back of. why have kids just to not want to be there when they really need you.
2006-12-17 14:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by Agnon L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not be pressured to get married and have kids
you will regret it
when you are ready
then do it
2006-12-17 14:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by Bren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋