Okay, I'm a student in high school and I have this really awesome guy for my history teacher. We're into the same books, music, movies, etc. and I just love talking to him because he's so funny and irreverent. I don't have a crush on him (too old for me! *lol* ) but because I'm a senior I won't be seeing him as often as I do--every day-- and that made me sad.
What are things I could do/suggest for us to become better friends outside of the classroom, not just a student-teacher relationship, that wouldn't get him or me into trouble? Should I just wait until I graduate before bringing anything up?
I really don't want to lose contact with so cool a person or grow distant, so I need help!!
2006-12-17 14:10:14 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
I guess he is not THAT old! I am a college teacher and I am 24 years old!!! so, some of my friends were my students, or I use to hang out with some of my still students. I know it is hard from my point of view too. Because maybe he could think you are being unrespectful something, but believe me, I too have had that feeling of sadness of losing touch with some special person.... so you don't sound weird, you should invite him to have dinner with you and your family, or to a family reunion so he won't think you are wanting something else... that way it all will look all innocent and that way you can gain time and get closer to him as a friends to the point when you get out of school he will be already your friend.
2006-12-17 14:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by Utsy 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I think you should wait until graduation before trying to become better friends with your teacher. Even though you don't seem to want anything improper, others might see it as such, which could get your teacher into a lot of trouble. One of my teacher friends gave his phone number to a troubled student who confided in him. It ended up she really was very troubled, she turned it around and made it look like something improper was going on and he ended up having to resign. We have all admired a teacher at one time or another, that is the mark of a good teacher. You may find that after graduation, while you still have good feelings toward this teacher, that there are many others your own age who share the same likes and dislikes that you do. Please take the time to write the teacher a note at the end of the year , telling him what an impact he has had. if he wants to contact you after that, great!!! Good luck.
2006-12-17 14:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by thrill88 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Here is an idea. In the first years out of high school, while you are in college, keep in contact with him via email or real mails, but keep it strictly informational etc. Visit him several times, like during open house or parent teacher conferences. His answers will help you understand where his boundaries are. If he doesnt answer there is a reason and you will just need to keep him as a wonderful memory.
2006-12-17 14:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by fancyname 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋