me and Laura are going to the prison this week to see her rapist, she has a meeting with him (mediation session) which is needed according to the judge.....the meeting only lasts for 10-15 minutes but Laura knows I'm mad and think that he should be in there for life, she said she'd hold my hand right through so I dont get up and take a swing at him because she knows I want to.........and she also said I need to just watch my temper as I tend to get abit agro when angry anyway reading above what else do you think I can do so I dont make a mistake by getting up and hitting this clown??
thanks
Mitch
2006-12-17 14:07:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he raped Laura the SECOND time because he felt like it he said, I have already threatened to hit him and told him myself that he should watch his back but so I dont hit him I need advice as if I hit him one I'll get in **** with the gaurds, but not her uncle as he's a cop, he'd come with us but he has a court case to attend to when we go there.
2006-12-17 14:12:42 · update #1
To add insult to us already feeling bitter and mad this guy is her ex boyfriend.....and i still cant beleive that he did it because he felt like doing it, there is NEVER an excuse for rape and whenever I see someone say women invite rape I think you must be joking because NO ONE ever invites something so sickening and simply disgusting to happen to them AT ALL (Muslims in Australia)
2006-12-17 14:47:56 · update #2
he got 16 years because its he's second rape
2006-12-17 14:56:23 · update #3
Hi Laura’s man,,
Dude you better get a handle on your anger and aggression !! Don’t be an idiot if you assault the moron YOU WILL be Charged by the OFFICER’S and YOU WILL LOSE!!
If you can’t do that you better stay in the car. That said………….. Remember you are there because Laura wants and needs your support. This is something she wants to do…has to do for her piece of mind. It’s a huge step for her confronting the puke,, and being able to tell him exactly what her feelings are and how he affected her. Doing this will allow her to move forward and through the trauma she suffered. She needs support through this huge step be the man for her, support and comfort her and remember it’s all about her!! NOT YOU !!
I sympathize with you, most guys do.. “wanta monkey bump that moron till he can’t move” but remember this IS NOT about RETRIBUTION. (that’s the prison’s job) this is about Laura being able to confront-and tell the moron how she was effected!!!
(trust me, this will be huge turning point in her recovery in moving thru that horrific experience and putting it behind her!)
2006-12-17 15:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 21:51:40 · answer #2 · answered by lemmer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I want to appulad your girlfriend for even being able to meet with this the SOB who did that to her. And you for going with her. I couldn't do it, I can't even think about the guy who raped me with out getting upset and getting really mad.
I would ask a cop to be present and keep the peace.
Plus if you beat the *** out of him, though he deserves it and worse, you will end up with charges and she will feel guilty. Trust me I"ve been there too. My boyfriend is in jail right now, for assult, he beat the ***out of the guy who raped me.
2006-12-17 14:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why waste your time on negative, just think he's doing time, your not YOUR FREE. You get to go home, eat, drive, work, no one to tell you the time of day. Quite the opposite of him. So, you have the upper hand so throwing a punch would only bring you down to his level. Your one step ahead---Just where you need to be.
2006-12-17 15:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly Laura can simply choose to not participate.... that would be easiest all around... and besides this bloke is not going to give her anything she needs... he wont be saying sorry, he wont offer her anything... she will not benefit from the visit at all.
2006-12-17 15:13:39 · answer #5 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person who suffered was your gf. Just listen to her, love her, and cherish her. This issue hapenned between both of them. That clown will be punished by the law thus your violence won't be necessary. good luck
2006-12-17 14:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by LadyXSakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice
do not hit him
then you would get in trouble and
that is not what your gf needs right now
be there for her
support her
it is going to be hard enough for her to face this man
and also have to worry about you losing your temper
best of luck
and i hope he stays in for a very long time!
2006-12-17 14:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by Bren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think of all the new "friends" he will have in prison. i think he will know the definition of the word rape, before too long. take heart in that.
2006-12-17 14:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by chris r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep reminding yourself that this is going to make you and gf closer and that she is depending on you, this is about her not you beating the **** out of some ****. if you beat him up then it might make your gf relive it and all that because she will be reminded of how horrible you think it is and all that. just be there for her and keep your cool
2006-12-17 14:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by cndrll_1613 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell a cop to stay in the room to keep the peace, good luk
2006-12-17 14:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by Antonio 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋