My 14 year old only wears jeans that are way way too tight for her. Her friends and peers seem to dress the exact same way. I am not entirely comfortable with her going to school or the shopping mall dressed like this, but usually her Mom and I have tried to not fight with her about her jeans, things could be much worse. Overall, she's a sweet kid with a poor memory for curfews, a smart alecky mouth and some drama queen tendencies, but still a good hearted kid, so I figure it's best not to fight with her about clothes.
Do other people feel the same way? do you confront your daughters about this kind of clothing? at what age should your daughter start paying for her own clothes if she chooses to dress like this? I am happy to clothe her, but I feel funny about paying for her to dress in jeans that look like they would split down the seams if she were to lean over to tie her shoes.
I thought tight jeans were supposed to be out of style, but it sure does not seem like it at the mall?
2006-12-17 14:03:43 · 32 answers · asked by O'Shea 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
A few years back, I remember the late great John Ritter had a wonderful quote on his "8 Simple Rules" show about girls in tight jeans and thongs.
"No wonder the youth of today are so angry, they all have day long wedgies."
2006-12-17 14:10:49 · update #1
Do you mean tight as in 'she can't zip the zipper or button them' or do you mean fitted?
My parents let me wear fitted jeans and shirts because they think baggy pants and shirts look sloppy and I agree.
Also, some guys who are part of the scene wear tight girl pants. (That's hot. x3)
2006-12-17 14:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
Teens In Tight Clothes
2016-11-12 05:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I let my daughters wear pretty much what they want. If they look dreadful or tarty or it made them look a bit fat (not that that is possible with my eldest who is I think what in america would be a size 4) I would tell them, honest. If they looked great I tell them they look great. And they do the same for me.........which is a mixed blessing!
I think you have the approach absolutely right. It's a little thing to fight about, really not worth it. Just relax, I'm sure you've brought up an sensible, intellegent, young woman, trust your ability as a parent, she'll be OK, tight jeans or not.
(mine a 16 and 19 now............they get more expensive as they get older, thought I should warn you)
Good luck
2006-12-17 19:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a problem more with the poor memory for the curfew and smart alecky mouth. I put up with a few quirky clothes choices from my 13 and 14 year old daughters, but not the other stuff.
2006-12-17 17:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tight jeans are actually in style now, for guys as well. I completely understand where you are coming from though. I would definitely not be comfortable letting my teenage daughter out in what I see as 'too tight of clothes' (thankfully I don't have to worry about that yet!). However, in my opinion, there are worse things than too tight jeans. If she starts doing other thing then I would worry, but not yet. You don't have to like it but it is not the worst thing she could be doing.
2006-12-18 04:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by Megs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a daughter but I DO have a teenage son and I know how they think. If I did have a daughter, I definitely would not let her wear clothes that are too tight. And I think a reasonable age for her to buy her own clothes if she chooses to dress that way is 18.
2006-12-17 23:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont wear tight clothing all the time, but I will never wear a 'muffin top' or anything like that because 1. It's really degrading to the person I am . 2. I like to feel comfortable in the clothes I wear. 3. That's really werid.
I do feel the same way, and I am thirteen. I ddont have a daughter but I might let her wear clothes that fit but not to tightl. (if I ever get a daughter)
2006-12-17 23:39:15 · answer #7 · answered by --; cookie. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 13 y/o wears tight jeans and skinny jeans, which is the current style. I would say that your daughter should be wearing clothing that compliments her body type. My daughter is very tall and thin and the skinny jeans look suits her. My only compromise is that her tops must be modest and longer (no midriffs or tummy shirts). I make her pay for styles that I just cannot stand (like the Vans "prison style" slip-ons).
As for missing curfews, I would be making it a point of picking her up and not letting her make it home on her on. Attitude and mouthing off goes with the teenage territory, you just have to stay one step ahead of her and act like nothing shocks you. Remember, teens are always looking for attention, whether good or bad. Good luck!
2006-12-17 17:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by lynnguys 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If she's not mature enough to recognize the importance of this decision on her own, then you will hae to stand your ground. Modesty is important, especially at her age. When she dresses inappropriatly, guys will look at her and think of her in a wrong way. However, you do not want to go over the edge and make her wear baggy clothes. Go shopping with her, and encourage her to try on several pairs of clothes (even if it means you or her mother have to wait a long time). Help her find clothes that fit and make her feel confident, not clothes that are revealing and tight. Hope this helps.
2006-12-17 15:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by geishainkyoto 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not really tight jeans that are in style, it's skinny fit jeans. I only own one pair and they are SO uncomfortable! And, if she just wears tight jeans, you've got it way easy: things could be quite a bit worse.
Anyway, I think that she's trying a little too hard to be sexy. Maybe just have a discussion with her about your values, and say that you'd hope she'd adopt them as well. Remind her that, despite what some of her friends may or may not be doing, she is, as she probably always reminds you, her own person, and that she shouldn't wear something just to fit in. Tell her that if she chooses to wear these skinny jeans, she will have to pay for them herself, and that you would be happy to go with her to buy whatever clothing she would like except for too-tight jeans.
Also, remind her that there are other trends (such as shift dresses and leggings, or other dresses: they're huge this year! Plus turtlenecks layered under V-neck or scoop necks dresses and shirts this time of year are awesome. I also really like thigh-highs with skirts that just overlap.....SO CUTE!!!) and that she should consider some others (google search things like shift dresses, leggings, etc. and have pictures to support what you say) and set her own trends.
I agree, I think that she's way too young for that look: maybe try and find her some younger role models!
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2006-12-17 14:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
The jeans are in style as long as she doesn't have her stomach and chest out I wouldn't bother her about the jeans but if her skirts or shorts get too short draw the line. And as for her mouth and the curfews she needs punnishment for that if she talks crazy take her cell phone and don't let her talk on the phone for a couple of days. If she comes in late she can't go out for a month. That should fix it.
2006-12-17 15:46:15 · answer #11 · answered by Ms. Lise 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋