2006-12-17 13:34:23 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dont listen to the idiots on here who tell you to divorce or leave him. People give up WAY too easily. This is YOUR husband, YOUR marriage, YOUR life. If you love him, do everything in your power to make it work.
He will drive you crazy, you will feel as if you are doing all the work, and he is oblivious and doesnt care. But KEEP DOING IT.
If he really regretted being married to you since you wed, he wouldnt be with you now. He would cheat or leave, so obviously he has feelings for you.
But some people I find on here, say "leave and divorce, find someone new" First of, its not easy finding someone new, second of all, dont be a wuss and run away....
Be strong and fight for what you beleive in, dont give up.
2006-12-17 13:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by confusedbrowngirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For awhile, when you first "fall in love" with someone, the Neurotransmitter going through your head is called P.E.A. Overtime, you build up a tolerance for this, and between about 6 months - 1 year it wears off. During that time, you're almost literally addicted to the person. 5 days is not long enough to know anyone, let alone marry, and this was most definitely a mistake. A well trained actor could put up a facade for 5 days, let alone when you're now miles away. My suggestion would be to get a divorce, and if you still feel connected after awhile, then maybe get married again, but marriage has legal ties to it which can screw up your whole life situation if you're not careful. Tread lightly, and good luck to you.
2016-05-23 03:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody on here can give you the magic answer you are looking for, though it sounds like you already know the answer and you are looking for support. I would suggest only you speaing with a professional and helping yourself to stand on your feet emotionally so you can move on with or without him. Unfortunatly true love has to be a 2 way street. A word of advice- stay away from any counselor that gives "advice". They have to be neutral and un bias. The reason is because you have o make you own decissions in life. If you do decide on your own to move on, then talk with an attorney and move on with the next part of your life.
I really do hope things work out for the best with you- either with or without your husband. Been there, done that- and there really is light at the end of the tunnel.
I hope this helped and best wishes!
2006-12-17 13:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by Gary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regrets being married to you? That statement should say it all. You can't be married to a person that doesn't want to be married.
Marriage takes 2 people to make it work. It might be time to move on......or at least talk about it?
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2006-12-17 14:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anna M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did he just start acting like this? I highly doubt he did. Men usually show their true colors long before marriage, unless you have only known him for a short while. So, if he has always been acting like that, why did you marry him? If not, how long have you been married? If it has been a short time, get an anulment. If it has been a long time, I don't know what to tell you. If you have put up with it this long, you obviously have no plans on leaving him. So, I guess you can get some professional marrital help.
2006-12-17 13:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by iceprincessk7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe find out why he feels the way he does. There has to be something that has triggered these feelings, how long have you been married? I'm a firm believer that both parties should try to make it work for the kids and if they can't then don't put the kids in the middle
2006-12-17 13:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him hey if you do not like it then do not let the door hit you in the azz. Tell him if he regrets getting married to you why don't he file for divorce or file them yourself. Life is to short to live life with a crabby person who does not respect you.
2006-12-17 13:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's sad. You should consider leaving. If he regrets it.....it's not long before he's acting out on that regret. (cheating) Maybe ask him WHY he regret's it. Ask him to be open and honest and just be ready for anything. If he can't answer, or says that he's not in love, you should probably leave. Sorry......and good luck with this.
2006-12-17 14:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by ♥2323vsb 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's your problem? Do you want to live like this the rest of your life? If the house is in both of your names, leave his crabby a**, you can get half of it back later in court. If it is in yours, throw his sh** out in the yard and change the locks. Oh yeah, after he gets over raising hell about that, be prepared for him to come begging...Don't fall for it. He just wants back in so he can start abusing you again.
2006-12-17 13:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by bella 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Regrets being married to you?
Get yourself as sexy as you can possibly be, even if this requires some plastic surgery or something. Get a REALLY good job, even if this requires you to go back to school for it, and then divorce him and live a life that he'll regret he couldn't be a part of.
2006-12-17 13:41:13 · answer #10 · answered by Quest4questions 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋