Trying not to offend...
but also not to hurt...
Wanting to have a pleasant time with the family. My (still) sister-in-law will not be present. She'll be left home alone by herself, while the rest of the family gathers for the first time without her. Their kids don't quite know what to make of "Dad"?
2006-12-17 13:32:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-12-17 13:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by tim b 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Invite your sister-in-law, and tell your brother to leave his girlfriend at home. She has no business being in the family photo or family gatherings, since she's only your brother's mistress. Once the divorce is final, suitable arrangements can be made for other family gatherings, but your sister-in-law shouldn't be left home alone on the holidays just because your brother couldn't keep his marriage vows. She is still part of the family, whether your brother likes it or not and your nieces' and/or nephews' mother and should be given the respect she deserves.
2006-12-17 13:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by letsgetagripalready 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep the girlfriend out of the picture. He has no business having a girlfriend when there isn't even any ink on the divorce papers. Shame on him. That must make the children very confused and your sister in law must be very hurt.
Why doesn't your sister in law have the kids anyway? Why is she the one sitting at home all alone? Sorry but your brother sounds like a loser.
2006-12-17 13:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Jayne with y,
I am sorry to hear that! But I think your brother needs a big, long time out. He is still married, he needs to think of his children the impression he leaves on them. I feel bad for your sister in law. You might as well tell your brother he needs to make a decision. either his girlfriend stays out of the picture or he can stay on of the picture too! You can make a copy of an old picture of him and copy in into the family picture with the kids.
It is bad enough he has a girlfriend before the divorce. But treat him like one! I think sometime as sister we are suppose to protect and support our siblings through hard time, but I believe that sometime call them out on those situation can kick some sense into them. I bet if it was you-he would be on your case about it. I believe its call " tough love". Help him remember what goes around comes around. So grow up!!!
Sorry my bluntness. I just see too much people break up their family over a fling!
Good luck and focus on your nephews and nieces, make their childhood moments happy!
Merry Christmas!
2006-12-17 13:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by smiley710 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My rule isn't any ex-lady acquaintances, ex-different halves in family individuals photos. even with the undeniable fact that, presently, multiple pictures are taken at maximum studios and you have got one with them in it and one without. You all can purchase enlargements of the pictures you prefer. Your brothers can get those with them in it and you will get those w/o them. does not seem well worth a controversy. additionally, i'm no longer too prepared on young ones era- i've got not got any and don't prefer any- EVER, yet even i could have a no longer ordinary time refusing to enable an incredible youngster call me Aunt. what's up w/ that. that's no longer their fault. possibly that's because of the fact i'm an Aunt and that i admire my nieces and nephews, do exactly no longer prefer any of my very very own. An aunt is an incredible element to get to be!
2016-10-05 10:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by schnetter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you and your brother are going through a divorce. Sounds like fun for Christmas for your family. But no the girlfriend should not be in the pictures or even invited to the family's' house for the events. God bless****
2006-12-17 13:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the new girlfriend should step aside for the kids sake.
while it might hurt her feelings to left out of the photo, she needs to think of his kids.
you have a hard situation there, i am not envious.
why don't you take two pictures, one with the girlfriend, and one without.
that way everyone gets a picture that suits them. your brother will be happy that you included his girlfriend, and if you give the soon to be ex-sister- in -law a picture of
her kids with your family without the girlfriend , she will be happy to.
let everyone else pick out which photo they would like to have.
make sure to give your parents one of each, so they can use both of them, when needed.
2006-12-17 13:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is not part of the family yet so no I do not think she should be in a family photo. What if it does not work out between the two of them everyone is stuck with this person in the photo. You should just tell them family only.
2006-12-17 13:54:04 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your brother needs to grow up!
He needs to make a decsion as to who he will be with. Wife or girlfriend. And not put you, the family, or especially the kids in the middle of his stupidity.
As for the family photo...no she should be woman enuf to stay away as this is NOT her family.
Tell your parents, that by allowing him to bring gf and not wife, they are saying it's ok to be a jerk and hurt everyone involved.
If he can't bring his wife to be family...he needs to not show up himself bc all he is doing is making everybody else uncomfortable. And who wants to be made to feel like that at Christmas?
If they want to talk to me...email me.
2006-12-17 13:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uh...NO!!!
Chances are she won't be in the picture NEXT Christmas. The kids shouldn't have been involved anyway, till AFTER the divorce is final.
2006-12-17 13:40:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Your brother needs to stop thinking of himself and think of the kids. Obviously the two, your brother and his gf, are thinking only of themselves. While we don't know the whole situation, I don't think it's wise to do this with kids involved.
2006-12-17 13:38:23 · answer #11 · answered by CAELDA 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋