my husband and i recently had a baby. his grandmother is a "nanna" (and has been for 30+ years). my mother (a first-time grandmother) also wants to go by "nanna." she sees nothing wrong with our daughter having two "nannas;" my husband thinks this is outrageous and disrespectful since his grandmother has already claimed the name so to speak. i'm caught somewhere in the middle. who's right in this situation? and what should i do to keep the peace!?!?! neither my mom nor my hubby appear to be backing down. the original nanna, btw, is totally unaware of the situtation. thanks for any advice--it's sincerely appreciated!
2006-12-17 13:17:09 · 9 answers · asked by Manders 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hi, Of course it is okay for both grandmothers to be called Nanna. It is perfectly okay in most families for both to be called Grandma, so why wouldn't it be okay for both to be called Nanna. My grandchildren all call me Grandma as they do their other grandmother. When there is a need to distinguish which grandma they are referring to, they refer to me as Grandma Sue and their other grandma, Grandma Linda. It sounds to me like there is a bit of rivalry going on here. For some reason your husband wants his mother to have a "special" name. Your mother has the right to be called whatever she chooses and no one should deny her that right. Stick to your guns, your husband will get over it in time. Good Luck!
2006-12-17 13:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by sunshinesue_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can guarantee that your husband's mother is not the original "Nanna." Do you call your mother "Mom"? Does he call HIS mother "Mom"? Does he have any idea how many people around the world answer to "Nanna" and "Mom"? It's only a title and there is nothing in the world with having 2 nannas, plus the baby will not be confused. If he wants to differentiate, he can always use "Nanna Smith" and "Nanna Jones." That's how many, many others do it. Your mother has every right to choose what she'd like her 1st and future grandchildren to call her. Congratulations on your baby girl! =)
2006-12-17 13:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the benefit of your baby, I would set certain nanna names to each of them. Your baby could be confused by two people with the same name. I have a grand-daughter whose mother, my daughter-in-law, passed away just a month after birth. My son, after trying to raise her himself, realized she needed a mother, gave legal authority to my daughter who is married, but for some reason can't conceive, to adopt her. So, here is the problem, my granddaughter now has 3 sets of grandparents and me. My deceased daughter-in-laws' parents, my ex-wife (my son's mother) and her husband, and my son-in-laws parents. So, she could identify each with a name, she has a Pop Pop and Mom Mom, a Grandpa and Grandma and a Grammy and Gramppy, and she calls me Poppa __________,(my first name). If all her grandmas' were called 'nanna', she would be quite confused, I'm sure.
2006-12-17 13:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by one eye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yet she will be able to be her grandma. what's incorrect with calling her what she is? I had 3 grandmothers and grandfathers turning out to be up, and actual wasn't traumatized with the help of it. If some thing, you need to have defined gently to FMIL that your little female is amazingly, very shy, and that's going to take time for the lady to warmth as a lot as her new grandma and be prepared to call her a grandma-like call. i do not realize why you try to make an enemy of your FMIL for extremely no good reason in any respect. that's not putting your FH in a good position, you recognize.
2016-11-30 21:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by lemmer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of yall focusing on names, because eventually the child will create their own name for their grandmother (mine did no matter how much my mother wanted her to call her something else), you need to be happy that your baby has two grandmothers that care for him or her. I know plenty of kids whose grandmothers could care less about their very existence. This argument between you and your husband is really petty if you look at the big picture and is really making out to be a turf war. Not good.
2006-12-17 13:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about just going by nanna ________. Just put her first name after nanna to differentiate. I called all my grandmothers grandma _____. NO body was offended.
2006-12-17 13:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by smedrik 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey,even i have two nanna's..and its not confusing at all....
i use to identify them by the place they lived in!;)
explain to ur husband that the term nanna has nothing to do with prestiege,jus gr8 affection....
my grandma's never minded..infact they use to enjoy being teamed up together!it gave them loads of oppertunities to chatter on us grandchildren...and it showed them that they were totallly equal in every grandmotherly aspect!
2006-12-17 13:29:54 · answer #7 · answered by cupid's angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One can be nanna-sue and the other nanna-ann.
2006-12-17 13:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with it. Both of my grandmothers are mamaw, it's not a matter of whose first, just hwat the child grows to call them.
2006-12-17 13:21:21 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋