What do Teens need most to be productive?

Question

I have 2 teen grand daughters. They are always in some kind of dramatic mess or another.. What can I do or say that would help them know and understand how to grow into adulthood with ease and knowledge?

Answer 1

Basically, you just need to continue to do what you are doing, showing love to them. Set aside time to spend with each of them, maybe go out to a movie, or for a bite to eat. Let them talk and express their emotions. Try to get them to spend time with each other, going out of the house, get exercise. Let them spend time with other people who have had problems through out their teen years, but have successfully got over it. They may have some places you can go to, where ever you are from.
Sometimes I tell my children stories of my youth, I tell them about problems I had. Then I try to help them see, that I made it through many difficult times. And they can too. My children actually like the things I have to say, they see I'm human, and it has helped them to make the right decisions in life.
I also am very strict with them, in the sense that they have to be respectful of others, and they must be able to work the problems out among themselves. My kids, by our example, (my husband and I,) have learned how to get along with others and be forgiving. We have also taught them how to spend money wisely, how to care for their basic needs, and how to handle many adult problems, each of us has to deal with.
Love, patience, communication, and the extra time spent with the kids, really helps alot. Be honest with the Girls, tell them how you feel, and they will in time see you really care for them.
Teens have alot of things to worry about these days, especially because of peer pressure. Give them time to grow out of this state. It will happen soon enough. Then you may wish they were young again. I know I wish that for my kids alot. But they must all grow up some day. The way they do it is different for all of us.

Answer 2

I as a teenager find it helpful if my parents dont try to push their way into the problem. Maybe even slowly ease themselves in and offer and shoulder to cry on. But i do not like to hear advice, I'd rather learn for myself.

Answer 3

Once you realize that everything has an effect that you do threw out your life, then you can probably realize that you can do anything you want, but everything comes with a price, so thus you can rob a bank, but later you have to pay the price. This applies to everything in life, to get a result you have to the action.
(karma in other terms)
If you can understand this, then you are an adult...

Maybe if you tell them this they way change their ways of error.

Answer 4

They have to decide to be productive themselves. Self-motivation is always the best (self motiviation comes with self praise and self punishment). Bribing only works for so long...and if you bribe them too much they will only grow up to do things for bribes.
Talk to them and do more things with the family...keep them out of trouble .

Answer 5

I'm a teenage girl myself, the best thing you can do is encourage them to come to you witht heir problems, you cannot force them, it ruins a trust. You have to sit down and talk to them in a compfortable enviorment, and make sure they have time, or it will go right threw them.

Answer 6

Just leave them to grow up... if u help them to grow up, then I feel like it wuldnt be like "growing up with their own strength. Oh, and I think its best not to lecture them and stuff on growing up, acting mature and stuff like that, because my mum says that to me ALOT and Im seriously starting to get pissed, because she says the same stuff over and over and over. Well, just to tell you, we teens can understand things even if we hear it one time

Answer 7

Unconditional support, love, and care from those caring for them. Teens need to know that no matter what they do, they are always loved but they will be disciplined.

Answer 8

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