My mother in law hates everything I ever get her for Christmas or birthday. She seems to think my husband (her baby boy) is the only one among the entire family that can pick out presents for her. There are 3 brothers - all married to fine shopping women. I actually cried last year when she opened the gift I bought her (she loves tea - I gave her a teapot and loose tea) and said she would rather have Lipton tea the regular way - then set it aside and went to the next gift (she is 75 yrs old). She even gave away a purse I bought her (after she commented how much she loved mine) right after she opened it - all in front of me because she said she would never use it. I vowed I would not buy for her again, it's the baby boy's job... but he gets her the same sweater each year and I need another idea to give him (no, the hubby rarely does the deciding, but he does the shopping now- I tell, he takes credit and goes and buys). Any advice?
2006-12-17 13:13:20 · 14 answers · asked by itsjustfoolishness 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your hubby is getting her a gift, then it should be from the both of you. Let him deal with it. BUT---if you feel you absolutely must get her a gift of your own, then I'd suggest making a donation to a charity in her name. That way she can't give it away and if she's mad then you know the money was well spent regardless of her cold heart.
2006-12-17 14:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you let your husband take responsibility for the shopping for his own mother. If you can't please her and all she can do is intentionally hurt your feelings then let him be the one to pick out her gift and make it from both of you. If she doesn't like what he picks out then she is hurting his feelings and not yours and you can quietly snicker in a corner about how clever she thought she was being when she thought she was insulting your taste.
So what if he gets the ol' bat the same sweater? If she's that old maybe she forgets that he bought that one for her the previous year and it's like getting it for the first time every year LMAO....
2006-12-17 13:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy try not to cry to hard my ex mother in law convinced my ex wife to kidnap the kids from the state we live in and have me falsely arrested I had to wait 3 months for the district attourney to drop those false charges meanwhile she was in the second state bringing me up on malicious charges she brought 9 each time I had to pay for an expensive lawyer each time i was not guilty I had to take custody of my kids they were physically and sexually abused in that home my son and daughter had to sleep with other cousins guys and girls 4 to a bed the house has 3 bedrooms my ex her sisters sisters boyfriends and her mother and father everyone was allowed to beat my kids this happened for 11 months i am now going through court for the kidnapping charges
2016-05-23 03:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a gift card she can buy whatever she wants. I think she is rather rude for saying those things out loud. If she says something about the gift card then I would never buy her a present again.
2006-12-17 13:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't a bad gift getter. She just isn't gracious and looks forward to mistreating you. You and your husband should just send her a gift card and stay at home with each other. You shouldn't have your feelings hurt on such a special day of year.
2006-12-17 13:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a horribly ungrateful women. She should be happy you tolerate her nasty attitude. I would just let him keep getting her the same sweater she seems to be happy with it. Or you could get her a gift certificate at a restaurant nearby and she could go hang out with one of her friends that are able to tolerate her. God bless****
2006-12-17 13:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not much you can do when someone is ungrateful. what happened to "it's the thought that counts?" personally i wouldn't buy her anything considering she doesn't appreciate anything from you. and giving away the purse infront of you, that's so wrong! but if you want to get her something try a gift certificate so she can get her own gift
2006-12-17 13:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW, talk about ungrateful. I was always taught that it's better to give than to recieve, talk about being ungrateful and selfish. She should be happy that she gets a gift from you at all. I know she's older, but that's seriously not right.
2006-12-17 13:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a gift card for a Pancake house or some other Restaurant so she can go out with a friend... Chocolate?
2006-12-17 13:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand why your husband didn't stand up for you. He should have confronted his mother on her rude behavior. She doesn't deserve anything, but if you must buy a lap blanket-- old people get cold. It sounds like she has a cold heart.
2006-12-17 13:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer Lu22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋