Is it just me or is it my friends? Or is this just the way people are........?

Question

I realize i've only had a few actual sincere friends. Now going into a public high school after my whole life in a catholic grammar/middle school i've made more friends and met more people. I've lost contact with a lot of my old friends and sometimes i miss it so much i just want to cry. wow that sounded gay. anyway i was out the other day with one of my new friends having a good time and then we invited my best friend since 5th grade to the mall and they were acting totally different. i felt like they were completely against me. then they would be nice for like a mintute and go back to being total bitches. i couldn't belive how my best friend was acting. idk if its being a teenager or if its me or the people i chose as friends or just people in general. i feel so betrayed. it could also be my paranoia because that's the way i've always been. whenever i see people talking, even complete strangers, i think they're talking about me. do i need a shrink or something? yea...sorry

lol actually sweetbrunette i just watched it. i kinda felt like i could relate to it a little

wow i wasn't expecting these answers. thanks everybody! i really do feel a bit better now.

Answer 1

Just like you are having to adapt with new friends, a new environment and new school. They are having to adapt also, to be without you as part of the daily gang. Sometimes this attitude is a defense mechanism for them to keep from wanting to cry. You have new friends and they may be jealous. It's normal, you will have to figure out what to do about it though to make it work for everyone.

Answer 2

No, you don't sound gay. My best friend and I have been best friends since I was four (ten and one half years! Golly, how the time has flown!) and we love each other to death. But since then, I've made new friends, too, and we don't as much time together. The good thing is that she's become friends with my new friends, so when we hang together, we all act like ourselves. I think that your new friends might be jealous of your relationship with your best friend. They might feel a little intimidated by her, even if she's not really that scary =D. Try to get them to see that she's special to you just the same as your new friends are and try to get your best friend to see that, too. If they still don't hit it off...I know this sounds kinda mean, but maybe you shouldn't hang out with your best friend AND your new friends at the same time.
Hope I helped some.

Answer 3

All normal for your age. You are in the major testing/trial period of your youth. You are going to hopefully learn to trust your instincts over your insecurities; to tell the difference between friends and acquaintances; figure out if you are going to stand for something or just be part of a crowd; get your values and goals set....
It is a big transition between parochial and public schools. Wish you could have stayed in the Catholic School system but you can survive and prosper in the public system using the guidelines set by the private one. Find yourself and stay true/believe in yourself and you'll do fine. It just takes time and not using emotions to give you direction. Use that smart head instead (<:

Answer 4

What you described is one of those things that generally happens in high school. There's nothing wrong with you, we all go through it at least once. It's happened to me many times, and I know how it turns your entire beliefs about who you could trust upside down.

But you can take some consolation that as most people get older, they stop centering their lives around cliques, popularity, and spreading rumors. The quality of your friendships always improves as you and the people around you become more mature. In the meantime, just try to choose friends who are confident and compassionate enough not to need to put other people down.

Answer 5

it just sort of sucks so bad..UNTIL you put into perspective..in a short short period of time these people will be out of your life forever...you'll be off to college and there you will find people that are mature and far less shallow...so do your best to get through these challenges...and when its done, you can turn your back on the entire bitchy time...know this doesn't help with the here and now..but get past it...if you do, you will be so far ahead of them....

Answer 6

Go watch the movie, "Mean Girls"; then you will understand what you are going through.