and does not want to bring in a gift for her for Christmas. I don't particularly care for her either, but feel it is customarily done and don't want him to be the only child that did not. What do you think?
2006-12-17 12:30:04 · 17 answers · asked by shortstack 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
I think the answer should come from what you want to teach your child and what kind of man you want him to eventually be. If he is in fifth grade, his social skills are still forming and if he doesn't learn early then difficulties will build on each other and will be harder to re-learn as he gets older.
If the other kids are doing it, and it is custom to do so, then he should learn that even if he doesn't like someone, he can still be nice to them.
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See, if you don't address the issue now, your son will end up like Bryce here above my post! :-)
2006-12-17 13:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by jaybird512 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate many of my teachers too but completely agree with you. As a high school student I can recall a year in middle school where it was Christmas time and I brought in a gift for all of my teachers. The ones who I really liked i gave them a big present and the ones I didn't like quite as much I only gave them a small present. Since fifth grade is still elementary school your son probably only has four teachers for all the core classes. That is History, Math, Science, and English. He probably has the other ones like P.E., Music, and Art. Anyway though the point that I am trying to make is maybe you could do the same thing with your son, the teachers he is very fond of bring in a pretty decent present, and the ones he doesn't like as much to just bring in a small present.
2006-12-17 12:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by leged56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all I would schedule a teacher/ parent conference with her to try to resolve what ever is going on and if that don't work then I would go to the Principal and have a conference with them both, and maybe even try to have your kid moved out of her room because if not you are headed for problems, and it is also going to prohibit your child from learning if he feels uncomfortable around her, but as far as the gift you need to teach your child to be the bigger person here and yes do give her a gift and make sure you give it with lots of love no matter how hard it may be, and sometimes that will break the ice between two people, like that say if you smile the world will smile with you. good luck and seasons greetings
2006-12-17 12:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by MsThang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help him focus on the "giving" of a gift and not the person. Let him feel good about doing the good deed. Due to the degree of dislike you have for the teacher and given the fact that she isn't a relative or friend opt for the cheap gift without talking about the price to your son. Go to one of the dollar stores and get her something from there. A figurine, a candle, a new pen, a box of chocolates etc...
2006-12-17 13:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you talk to your son and ask him to list five good things about her that he likes (or things she does he likes) and five things he doesn't like. Then discuss the list of the good things emphasizing that there are going to be things about lots of people in his life that he won't care for. Hopefully you both can agree on either a gift, plant/flowers or at least a holiday card for her. Another good idea would be to buy for a child through the school or church that is in need and tell the teacher you did that in lieu of a gift for her. I'll tell you that coming from a family with two teachers, they don't really need all the "teacher" gifts they receive.
2006-12-17 12:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give them botha nice Christmas gift, get him s different teacher. Usually it is not terribley hard to change teachers in th emiddle of the year. n don't youthink he would learn better if he were not resenting the teacher? My personal experience has been that if you and your child don't like the teacher, something needs to be done about it. It isn't likely you are both wrong!
Beyond that youa re right. This would comes under the headding of sometimes we have to do things we don't like. Tell him to sum it up and do waht needs to be done.
2006-12-17 12:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by raredawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if you made a charitable donation in her name? Then give her a card saying that a donation was made in her honour (and the charity will often be willing to send her a thank-you card). It's a win-win. The charity gets help, and the teacher has been thought of. She doesn't need 30 gifts anyway. My mom was a grade 2 teacher, and though it was appreciated to be thought of, she got some weird stuff. I know she would have preferred the charitable donation in most cases.
2006-12-17 14:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by RMT1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some personal experience with this i am an 7'th grader and my mother forced me to bring something to school for my math teacher who i absolutely HATED. on my schools midterm report cards there wasnt a space to write in comments but she would always write that i have "a bad attitude"
so i took her gift to schgool with me and then i put it in the dumpster behind the building before ic ould give it to her. i would say don't make your son bring anything let him bring nothing it will send his teacher a message that she needs to back off!
2006-12-17 13:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by bryce_biz@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something not to personal, like a gift certificate. Or maybe even just a nice card, saying stupid stuff about how much you appreciate all she does as a teacher. Make her think you mean it. Happy holidays..
2006-12-17 12:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by lovinbasketball205 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to give his teacher a gift only if you and your son like his teacher.
2006-12-17 12:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋