Ex- best frined help please?

Question

ok my ex- best friend Janelle is really rude to me. She IM's me harssaing me. She says that 2 of my best friends hate me and she says all of my friends hate me but don't tell me. She also says she has more friends then me and I treat my friends like 2 year olds( I don't) and she says I act like a 2 year old I mit as well treat my peeps as 1 year olds. Thats were I draw the line. She really hurt my feelings and I started to cry. I told my mom that she wasn't my friend but I haven't told her about what Janelle says about me. I can handle it myself. What should I do to ignore her. I tried talking to her about why she wasn't my friend. SHe said she hangs out with too many peoplee and just didn't want to be my friend anymore. I'm fine with that but harssaing me I wanted to go over to her house and strangel her to death. What should I do?

sorry about my spelling.

I was just kidding about strangleing her. It's just a figer of speech.

Answer 1

well, first off dont go and strangle her, unless you want to add the police to your list of problems haha.
you should call her, get her on the phone or in face somehow, that is better than online where words can be misinterpreted, etc.
then just give her a heart-to-heart, tell her what you wrote in your question. no matter what, dont use "you" statements, or make accusations, because it will make her defensive and mean. Ie:
DON'T conversation:
you: you've been really rude to me lately and i dont like it.
janelle: I'm not rude! dont u call me rude, your a b***h!
****situation deteriorates****
DO conversation:
you: sometimes, whether you mean to or not, the things you say really hurt me.
janelle: i'm so sorry i had no idea... i just felt jealous and thought that so-and-so liked you more!
you: oh... so you were never intending to be mean?
janelle: no, im so sorry. friends?
you: of course!
(or sumthin along those lines. idk haha)

OR just be like **** you, i dont have to explain myself to you.
and tell some1 at ur school, block her and ignore her, etc. if she sees you in the hallway or wherever stand up 4 urself

Answer 2

well, wow, she's a big a** b****..lol anyway, i've had these problems too.. it's weird how you can be bestfriends one minute then enemies the next.. just thinkiing about my past experiences makes me want to cry. and i know how it feels.. your friends just being a b**** and she cant stand it that your happy without her and thats why shes trying to make you feel bad by saying all those mean things.. and the way she says she has way more friends is just her being defensive. she wants to make you the smaller person by making you feel like the loner. which you are obviously not, why would she be trying so hard to hurt you if you were a loner.. lol dont start harrassing her, but dont ignore her either. even if she says something mean, just remember, to act cool and dont seem to be affended.. what she wants to hear from you is "i f***ing hate you! and stop making me feel like s***!" ahah she really has no life.. dont listen to her.

also.. i dont think you should go and strangle her. and lol, i think you should tell your mom that shes bugging you.

Answer 3

Yeah. We have been terrific pals the top of common college. We all started middle college jointly. 2 weeks into it, there became a typhoon (Katrina). Our place of origin became destroyed yet We got here upon one yet another and wrote letters backward and forward(: I lived in Mississippi, she lived the place we grew up. At one element, perhaps after a three hundred and sixty 5 days. She stopped responding. once I moved back, after 3 years and rebuilding were executed, we've been in the comparable severe college. (8th grade became area of the highschool) We observed one yet another in the halls and it became like we had on no account ever met previously. In 5 years (8th grade and severe college) we had perhaps 2 or 3 conversations which in simple terms consisted human beings asserting "hi". i do no longer understand what occurred. even nonetheless it relatively is all good.

Answer 4

Ignore her-block her over the internet.If you see her, tell her you're simply not interested and indifferent to whatever she says.She's just jealous that you have great friends and just because you two are not friends anymore, she wants you to have no friends so you can go crawling back to her.

Answer 5

first of all you know who your friends are and don't think twice about that. That ***** might think she has a lot of friends but are they her real friends. If she does have so many fiends then why does she harass you. The best thing to do is ignore her.

Answer 6

well i'm sorry this, happened first make sure that what your friend says about you treating your friend unfaily is not true if it is change you ways sometimes we do that not knowningly and also its gonna be hard at first but let that friend go obviously she is not worth having around and you must be really important for her to keep iming you and talikng to you about what a "bad friend" you are

Answer 7

Is there a way that you can block her text messages? Try that. Otherwise just ignore her and her messages.......if she texts you, don't even read it once you know it's her, delete it immediately. Don't play her child games, or get caught up in them. Best of luck to you.

Answer 8

Stick up for yourself. I think I know what Janelle your talking' about. I stud up to her and she never bugged me again.

Answer 9

block her as a friend so she wont harrass you. shes the one acting like shes 2 and if anyone who dosent wanna be you friend because of what she said wouldnt be that great of a friend anyway. best of luckk

Answer 10

Well tell her to back off and leave u alone if that doesnt work beat the crap out of her