My husband had an emotional affair with a woman at work and we are trying to work out our marriage. How can I get over the fact that he betrayed me? I want this to work but I want to trust him again. It hurts that he still works with her.
2006-12-17 11:41:13 · 10 answers · asked by tinakay_83 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you don't work it out. you leave... if it happened once it will happen again and you will hate yourself for the way you act/feel if you stay with him. I watched my mom put up with other women for her entire marriage to my dad. She finally had enough and is now happily married to another man who treats her with the love and respect that she deserves. Emotional, Physical, whatever... affairs are wrong and should not be tolerated.
2006-12-17 11:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs.Neville 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Give him a 2nd chance, everyonemake a mistake once in a while. If he had an emotional affair, do some soul searching and see where this is lacking. Marriage is not a smooth sailing road, it comes with tough and rough rides.
An arrow can be shot only by dragging it back. So when life is dragging you back with difficulties it means that it is going to launch you into victory!
2006-12-17 20:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is hard as I am going through this right now with my wife. I had an emotional affair with my partner at work. We have both been in counseling for over a year now. I want to give you hope. It is getting better. I even offered to break my partnership, but my wife doesn't feel that would be right. My partner and I have agree to have a very strict line that keeps business as business and our personal lives out of the office. It has been hard, but it is working. Counseling for both of you is a must. I have learned that for most women an emotional affair is as bad or worse than a sexual affair. In many ways it is harder for a woman to get over an emotional affair. Even though I told you it is getting better, there are times when it rears it's ugly head and we need to deal with it. You can do it. Tell your husband exactly how you feel. Us guys aren't good with subtleties. Be frank. Don't be afraid to hurt his feelings he need to know how you feel. My wife thought she was telling me how she felt, but I wasn't getting it. Through counseling she has been able to explain it to me in ways that I understand. Good Luck and don't give up!!!
2006-12-17 19:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by hockey2525 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Either you trust him or you don't. If you do then put it behind you and move forward in the marriage. If you don't then you are wasting your time trying to work things out.
2006-12-17 19:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by tim b 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
hmmm.......if it was "emotional".....then that's almost worse than actual sex. Pretty hard to bust up an emotional relationship sweetie.
But, I don't know the actual issues or circumstances. If he came to you and told you about it then you have a chance to salvage your marriage and rebuild your trust factor. If you found out on your own.......chances are slim to none that you'll ever have the truth with him again.
I'm sorry to be so frank .....but it is the truth.
2006-12-17 19:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 3⤋
you need to determine what is lacking in the marriage to have caused him to look else where. You need to concur that then you can move to the next step and start rebuilding the trust.
2006-12-17 20:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
first of all its good that you want to work things out, it says that you still feel for him, but as for trusting him,, well now that your willing to work for your relationship, its going to take time for you to trust him,, he is the one that is going to show you that he also wants the relationship to work,, dont rely on words,, you need to see actions.. lots of luck .
2006-12-17 19:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
has the world gone crazy , you cant own a persons mind
2006-12-17 20:36:16 · answer #8 · answered by jac 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
get a counsler they can walk you through it....
2006-12-17 19:44:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Hey Tina. it's me. get over it.
2006-12-17 19:45:46 · answer #10 · answered by veerfish 3 · 0⤊ 7⤋