how can i stop being shy?

Question

i hate being shy!! i seem to be boring to other people!! like lets say im with a person..i dunno what to say..i just stay quiet cuz i dunno what to talk about! any ideas?! help..

Answer 1

I have the same problem. Im not shy at all around people I know, in fact im the center of attention and the life of every party... but when it comes to strangers I just dont know what to say. So heres what i do, if i know im going to be talking to someone, i think up little conversation topics beforehand. Then I make small talk. Dont try to talk TOO much, let the other person do some of the talking too. Just try to go with the flow of the conversation, pretend youve known the person for years. If the convo stalls, whip out one of those handy topics you thought up... it can be anything, a personal question, the weather, sports, school... practice makes perfect.

Answer 2

I have known several people who were extremly shy indeed, there was this 1 gal in my class who literally wouldn't/cudn't speak to people. She was quite a smart gal and i remember 1 of my m8's for some reason, he was quite cheeky decieded to see if he could find out why she was shy.

Strangley enuf this didn't work because of the fact that some1 was talking to her she did gradullay open up. Mind you this was in the beginning of yr5 @ Primary school and the gal had moved to the school after a long illness.

I think that you can stop yourself form being shy.

Firstly how do you know that your'e "boring" to other people, no1's boring ok perhaps politicians but aside from them every1 has something 2 say so you can't be boring, and what is there 2 lose by saying something.

Now the way 2 solving this shyness problem is by doing only 1 thing making a postive attempt to speak to people, just greet them and say hello, say something about the news say something about the weather, in general just say anything really.

Maybe you're quiet because there r alot of loud ppl around you and you think that you won't be heard or you wont WANT to be heard but thats utter bullcrap. Some people blossum later than others and become more confident/less shy as they get older.

Just speak about anything really, keep it simple at first and then you will get more confident speaking to people and from there who knows, the sooner you make an attempt to change the better you'll feel about a/wards.

Answer 3

im still a shy person but im not as shy as i used to be--- a few months ago i got a job at this pizza place that sells beer and half drunk people/random college students would stir up small talk. the more you're exposed to talking, the more comfortable you'll be. it's kind of like taking a public speaking class to give better speeches or whatever.

Answer 4

Take drama! No, seriously! It will help you get more comfortable around people!!! Also, remember that you are just like everyone else! When you are aound someone and don't know what to say, think about what happened to you that day and bring up something related to that subject, it will probably spark a conversation! Good luck!

Answer 5

Its impossible to just stop being shy, its who you are. You can resolve to try harder but you cant just decide to say I will not be shy, it doesn't work like that. Try practicing what your going to say before hand so you wont be so shy about talking.

Answer 6

just relax and go with the conversation. the more you talk to people, the more youll relax. if you say something stupid, laugh it off. and if you cant tell jokes, dont try. trust me.

Answer 7

trying talking to people who look like they would be a great person to talk to.and just speak your mind of what you think.

Answer 8

im shy to but i learned to go with it