I like to watch football and NASCAR with my friends boyfriends. I get bored with shopping at malls and like playing soccer in my spare time. My mom says I'm not feminine enough for my age (16) and my friends think I'm after their boyfriends. Is it wrong to be a tomboy?
2006-12-17 11:16:11 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
No, it is fine. I was a tom boy. Still am. I am a pro surfer and so I am around a lot of guys. I never forget that I am a girl and I like being a girl. But I am an active and energetic woman so I don't like sitting around playing dress up all day. :)
2006-12-17 11:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by Isis 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Not at all. As Shakespeare said, "This above all, to thine ownself be true." You may want to lay off watching the football and NASCAR with your friends boyfriends, though, unless your friends are around. Teenage girls tend to get unreasonably and uncontrollably jealous when they think someone is after their man, even if that is totally not the case. They may make things very unpleasant for you. Surely there are other people to do those activities with. Whatever the case, don't be "feminine" because it's what your mom thinks you should be. If you live your life by what others think you should be instead of what you are, you'll have a very unhappy life.
2006-12-17 11:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by ckmclements 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I used to be a tomboy when I was little. I played He-Man with my brother, raced Matchbox cars, and watched Ninja Turtle cartoons. (Yes I'm showing my age) But when I was little I didn't have any girlfriends to play with. Nobody liked me or my interests so I resumed playing with my brother and his friends until I was 12 or 13. As I began to mature, my interests began to change, and I realized it was just a phase I was going through. I soon realized that dressing up could be fun. Wearing jewelry and make-up, going to slumber parties, and dances was fun.
Being labeled a tomboy is not a bad thing at all. You might remain a tomboy, or you may enjoy becoming a woman. But whatever anyone says, always do what you feel comfortable doing. Don't let anyone pressure you. Growing up is hard enough without all the added pressure. Good luck to you!!
2006-12-17 11:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by dramaqueen00469 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not in the least. In fact, your being a tomboy has its benefits- playing soccer won't put on weight the way, say, watching romance movies will. You'll have more to talk about with other people than just boys, fashion, or make-up- and you'll become a lot more interesting to be with as a result. As for your buddies, they are insecure- they incorrectly think you are playing up to the guys in an attempt to get them. As for your mom, don't worry. She just thinks(albeit wrongly) that you're not having the fun you could be having. Sit her down sometime and just explain that to her. You're more secure in yourself than you realize.
2006-12-17 11:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a tomboy, as long as you yourself are confident in being one.
Its great for girls to love sports and its even logical for some girls to get bored with shopping. Not every girl is going to be born wanting to shop forever, despite stupid stereotypes.
As for your friends thinking your after their guys....that could get a little problematic...
I would suggest talking to them about it and reassuring them that you don't like their boyfriends in that way [the easiest way to do this is if you already have a crush on someone else, and if you do, tell them who it is if they're really your best friends] this way they know its the other guy you want, not theirs.
if that doesnt work then try hanging out with some different guys, guys that aren't your friends boyfriends.
and while theres nothing wrong with being a tomboy its also always great to do/have SOME girl stuff. whether its doing your hair differently once in a while, buying a couple cute shirts, wearing a tad of makeup...anything...and you could probably look to your friends for advice. it'll show your mom that you can love sports and be a tomboy but still be a girl lol. Theres no "minumum" of feminity i mean who's to judge if your "feminine" enough or not?
2006-12-17 11:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by xoh_myblueheaven 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I think your friends are onto you. The problem with being a tomboy is you are EXTREMELY attractive to guys, at least me.
Not feminim enough? Ha, then why are your friends "worried".
At 16, enjoy yourself. Keep playing soccer, etc. Don't let somebody else tell you whats feminim. My experience some of most feminim girls are tom boys. Thing is other people try and tell you what it is to be feminim. Thats dumb.
Be yourself
2006-12-17 11:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by searchingForGirlCallSunsetDec21 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The real thing is are you comfortable with being you? If you enjoy using your body, watching contact sports, it';s just a choice. Your mother is concerned that it will limit your chances of getting married. See what they do? It's really all about getting you hitched to prove to her that she was a good enough mother. She has low self-esteem.
If you were my daughter, I'd be proud of you if you were nice, kind considerate, no drugs, no alcohol, and help people out, as well as take pride in your own life.
MY sister told my nephew when he was 14 right in front of me that he was NOT to become a teacher and if he did not become a doctor, she'd disown him. What a Crux to bear for a kid. I have zero to do with her ( She even went into Internet child porno as a partner, and that was enough to make me split with her forever).
People are insane. enjoy your life and body. Also, remember, many women work out, and some go into pro sports, advertising products on TV, etc. Lots of money and success stories for women who like to use their bodies in sports and who enjoy sports.
I nearly took one out in my teens, but I was too shy back then, really. She loved the MEts, and I've been a life-long fan. MY present gf like the MEts and we watch them together.
2006-12-17 11:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i substitute right into a tomboy for many of my intense college existence. i substitute into who i substitute into and for that, i assume I sacrificed having a relationship. in case you could desire to alter what you like and how you gown for somebody, I dont think of they are stable adequate for you. i think of fairly some adult adult males choose females that look and act like 'genuine females' whilst they are youthful yet quickly adequate, you will locate one that would not care relating to the superficial stuff as much as he does relating to the form of guy or woman you're. believe me, I did
2016-10-18 10:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Your friends are just jealous that you can interact with their boyfriends better then what they can. Tell your Mom you are only 16, and that it is more practical to dress how you do while your are still at school and playing sport!
Never change your style or who you are! If you are happy the way you are then tell everyone to go stick it!
2006-12-17 11:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by Lily 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Not at all. I'm a tomboy, but I am also feminine when it calls for it. Just because you like sports, doesn't make you any less of a woman.
2006-12-17 11:24:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋