I have the same dream about this woman who I spent 3 years with. She has just recently married another man and I feel that I have moved on and Im happy for her but she still haunts me. We both decided that the relationship was too hard and we broke up a year and a half ago. We met up to have a drink in Sept and it all went t*** up. Still so much anger between us. I have been with so many woman since and enjoying my freedom although this dream of her is on-going. I was married before for 12 years, I am now 36 and starting to worry what it all means. Will the dreams stop?
2006-12-17 11:10:20 · 10 answers · asked by Bacistocaz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For some people when they loose someone....regardless of the reason......they begin to obsess about that loss. Makes no difference that it was a mutual agreement the fact you have lost her will not let you alone. Almost like a huge failure for you that you just can't get over.
She has moved on. She has married someone else. What have you done? Sure you have dated a lot of women but none that sparked it for you like she did. So no matter how many more you date....until you resolved this in your mind....no one will ever take her place.
This is not a failure on your part. In fact it is a victory because so many people who have relationship problems go ahead and marry thinking that it will get better. Of course it only gets worse.
You have been spared that. You have been sparred either you or her cheating on each other after marriage.
You must become to see that she is in your past and once you put her there you will be fine. Hard to do....YES.
But you must if you ever intend to resolve this. And if you don't....and should meet the girl you want to marry....it will always be there between you.
2006-12-17 11:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! From what I learned about dreams and havingthe same one over and over, it's telling you that you haven't resolved something in your life, so it nags you in the dreams. You have to accept that your Ex remarried and let it go at that. It's a closed Chapter between you now.
Get into hobbies and go where you can meet other people, and girls. These recurring dreams will stop when you stop making an issue of your problem. Just get over it and realize she made a new life with someone else, be happy for her, release the anger and leave it in the past.
You will feel better. Just keep busy and maybe take a vacation out of State for a few weeks. Meet people.
In closing, when you don't resolve problems in your waking life, it can haunt you in your dreams, I had the same thing happen to me for 1 year, the same recurring dream, just like you said.
When you resolve problems, the dreams will stop.
Merry Christmas and "Don't worry, be happy!!"
2006-12-17 15:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reoccurring dreams do mean something. I've had several that after a period of time come to pass in reality.
There is still most definately a connection between you and this woman.
One thing is for certain....it will play itself out real time and then the dreams will cease.
It's all too complicated to go into. But, .....hey, let me know what happens. Good luck to you and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-17 11:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dream is most commonly telling you that the time is coming, however you must be sufferer. The cause your boyfriend, within the dream, is not pronouncing it again is given that the dream is translating that it isn't but time. When it's time nevertheless, you can recognise. Good Luck :)
2016-09-03 17:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write down the main items of your dream and get a book by Betty Bethard that explains dreams. If interpreting your dream does not help and this persists to worry you, I would recommend a couple of visits with a good therapist or a very true trusted friend. Good luck to you.
2006-12-17 11:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to stop dwelling on the dreams and that should help. When you wait up just say to yourself "oh well it was just her again and try to laugh about it". Going out with lots of other women won't help you to get her out of your mind . Maybe trying to develop a little more serious relationship with one of them might.
2006-12-17 11:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that often the people I dream about represent a characteristic within myself that I see in them. I start to pick out what it is that really bugged me about the person and change those actions and mindsets about myself. The dreams usually end once I do that.
2006-12-17 11:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by Love to Love 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is just something about her that you or your subconsious will never ever forget. therefore you will probably dream about her always, and randomly.
don't worry about it. its really nothing. dreams are dreams.... as long as you are getting sleep and not being kept awake by them, then i wouldn't worry about it.
try thinking of other things before you go to bed. think about flowers in a field or whatever, but the more time that goes by, and the less you think about her, will help how much you dream about her.
2006-12-17 11:18:32 · answer #8 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sleep drunk, that will take care of it
2006-12-17 11:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this might be helpful
http://spirita.blogspot.com/
2006-12-18 02:39:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋