My husband and I were having problems and I moved in with my mom for a while. While I was staying with her he was sleeping with some woman in my house, in my bed. We talk about getting back together, but I don't feel like I could ever live in that house or sleep in that bed again. I'm not even sure if I can move past what happened. Any advice?
2006-12-17 11:07:11 · 8 answers · asked by golden2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have any self respect then you wont put up with this cheatin man. You never get over it, you just learn to live with it. It will haunt you forever. (I know this from experience) Move past your hurts and his indescretion and find happiness within yourself. Feel proud of yourself that you wont let anyone treat you that way. If you leave it will hurt for awhile but you will pick up the pieces, but If you stay you are taking the chance of being cheated on again and the hurting then, never ends.
Contrary to what eharrah1 said, It IS still your house and it IS still your bed and it IS still your husband. You have EVERY right to feel the way you do. In her case "You get what you settle for ".
2006-12-17 11:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you told us I dont think that you should get back with him right now. If your having a hard time getting over him sleeping with someone else then throughout your relationship you will not trust him and keep accussing him of cheating and then ultimately its going to end anyway. I think you two should take a break and look at all options. DO NOT GIVE IN TOO EASILY. You have to let him know that in order for you guys to get back together he has to regain your trust and make drastic changes.
2006-12-20 21:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me a year to start getting over my husband cheating. You have to make a decision. Do you want to get over it and go on with your marriage? It was hard, even when he moved back in. it was at least 3 more months before I could even look at him and not want to smack him. But, you do eventually get to where you it does not bother you nearly as much. In your case, you were not together. You were living somewhere else. You really don't have a right to have a problem with it. At that time, it was not your house or your bed.
2006-12-17 19:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes. Get a divorce, hon. That is betrayal. Separation is a common cold of a marriage, betrayal is terminal cancer. Marriage is admiration, respect, passion and trust. He betrayed your trust, and gave his body and soul to another woman. I'd be barfing too, OMG.... It is tough for a marriage to survive adultery,,, with the trust gone, the first two either blow up in your face or slowly erode. Doesn't sound like he was much into your marriage. Call it a bad choice, get out, go back to school, and get on with your life, sweetie.
2006-12-17 22:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been 3 years for me and I still find myself thinking about it, what she looked like, what exactly did they do, I couldn't deal if it was done in my house in my bed. I stayed with him thinking that beacuse I loved him I could eventually get over it but I still find myself going through his phone and e-mails because I never really regained the trust and you can't have a stable relationship without that.
2006-12-17 23:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by dreamer2606 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know some women can move on from it,but i couldn't,every time we slept together i would see him and her together,i couldn't trust again,people do go on from affairs and make a relationship last but its something that will never be forgotten,i hope you suss it out,that's a hard one-in your bed is real bad though.
good luck
2006-12-17 19:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by NATALIE W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go back. he wasnt working on your marriage when you were separated he was with someone else. do not go back there.
2006-12-17 19:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by Miranda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you left him ,, what do you expect he did nt cheat you left , now its your call
2006-12-17 19:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋