and backbone and has major insecurities and they constantly call you asking you for advice on the same topic. you give them your honest opinion and feelings , but they dont take your advice. they prefer to stay in the same nonimproving predicament and continue to ask for your adivce of that same topic.
would you feel pity for her/him and/or would you evenually lose respect for her/him?
2006-12-17 10:53:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am that person lol, but I don't call anyoen or ask for advice. I just deal with it myself.
Some people just like to whine to others. They really don't want advice they just want to talk.
And I'd evenually lose respect for them, because if you don't listen when someone gives you advice then you're wasting their time and yours. And I'd tell them that, even if they got mad at you.
2006-12-17 11:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by tamara_giggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what, I think if you're a true friend, then you'll always be supportive and honest, but it's understandable to be frustrated.
I was the freind who asked for advice on the same thing over and over, and I kept doing it because ultimately I knew it was the right advice, but it just took me forever to realize it.
In the end, most people have to learn by making mistakes, and most will not do the right thing until they've done every wrong thing first and the right thing is the only option left.
2006-12-17 18:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by nateincincy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! I have a friend who constantly complains, thanks me for my advice and stays the same. We were friends since the 7th grade. Im married and moving along. She is Depressed and Depressing. I found that I had to separate myself more from her in order to gain prespective on my own situations. EVENTUALLY u lose respect and accept them for the pitiful friend that they are but you love them anyway!
2006-12-17 18:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by ladierockett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. I have had a couple of friends like this and while they are going through this phase, I found them to be frustrating and a tad pathetic, they have for the most part, grown beyond that phase and we have remained friends. You have to try to foster something positive in them in order to get them beyond the horrible self esteem phase. However, they may be in need of professional help in order to learn how to like themselves.
2006-12-17 18:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by Tara P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I WAS IN THE SAME SITUATION, AND I LOST TOTAL RESPECT FOR HIM. CUZ IF SOMEBODY GIVES YOU GOOD ADVICE MANY TIMES AND YOU DONT TAKE IT THAN THAT MEANS YOU WANNA BE THERE SO I TOLD HIM IF HE'S NOT GONNA CHANGE WITH MY ADVICE TO STOP ASKING CUZ ALL HE WANTS IS FOR SOMEONE TO FEEL SORRY FOR HIM AND I AINT. IF HE WANTS TO BE THERE ITS ON HIM AND HE SHOULD DEAL WITH IT INSTEAD OF TRYING TO BRING EVERYONE INTO HIS PROBLEMS.
2006-12-17 19:03:15 · answer #5 · answered by steveabilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋