My mom and dad are divorced... and my dad never calls me to come see him he lives two hrs. away. And so i am noy very close with him like i am with my mom. And now it is a week away and he wants me to come for xmas and why couldnt he call two frekin weeks ago? I JUST NEED HELP ON TELLING MY DAD HOW I FEEL. ALSO, HOW WOULD U FEEL IN THIS SITSUATION??
2006-12-17 10:53:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for helping me people THE KIND ONES some of you just have crap to say!! But thanks to the kind people who actually thought ABOUT IT! GOD BLESS
2006-12-17 12:04:42 · update #1
Honey I dont blame you for feeling the way you do. It must hurt really bad if he never calls you then expects you to show up for christmas. Its a tough situation for any child to be in. Have you talked to your mom about this? If you choose not to go then you should tell him why and tell him how hurt you are that he doesnt stay in touch with you. If you choose to go then make the best of it but still let him know how you feel and tell him that you would love to see him for christmas if it means that he will reamin a part of your life, not just on the holidays. Good luck in what ever you decide and Merry Christmas to you.
2006-12-17 11:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that stinks I'm somewhat in the same boat except its not my dad its a friend of my moms who we always go see for xmas and its boring as anything doing the same thing every year. I simply told my mom I'm not going and if she makes me I will ruin the entire night for everyone and she said "fine stay home but there won't be any food in the house" so thats what I plan to do
2006-12-17 19:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by Diana W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
totally: I can see why you are reluctant to be with your dad. Seeing him and being with him once a year, for Christmas, seems hypocritical ... doesn't it? Tell him that you would not feel good about spending Christmas with him and that you want to spend it with your mom. If he asks "why?" , tell him because you have no bond with him and he is like a stranger to you. Also, tell him that Christmas time is family time and you don't feel part of HIS family. I would feel terrible in a situation like you are going through. Let your mom know how you feel too. Good luck to you, "totally" !!!
2006-12-17 19:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would talk to my mom about it first to see if she has any ideas, then if she doesn't I would go to my dads house and just act like I am having fun. i would also tell him that I would like it if he called me more or if I could come over his house more often then you two could build a relationship and get closer.....I have been there done that it didn't feel that well because I didn't want to hurt my dads feelings, I did what I am telling you and it worked out pretty well.
2006-12-17 19:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lil_ jay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, it's completely irrelevant how I, or anyone else feels. Don't try to justify your feelings by comparing them to anyone else's. You don't need to. Just ask your dad what you asked us. It will take some courage, but you have every right to know. If he's so jazzed to have you over for Christmas, why can't he be jazzed about the rest of the year? Don't be confrontational. Flaring tempers will solve nothing. Maybe a frank and lengthy discussion is what's needed to resolve this and any other issues you may have.
2006-12-17 19:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well if u really do not want to go , tell him and dont hesatate to tell him exacly why! Just tell him that you are not really used to spending time with him never the less a big holiday.(If you are that desprate to spend time with him though i suggest that you shoul use this opportunity to start and anytime that you feel the need to just see him call him up! its called a telaphone,(lOl)
2006-12-17 19:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by heathable 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should talk to your dad and tell him that you already had plans for new year or if you are frighten to talk to him or just don't wanna do it then go talk to your mom and ask her for advices, I'm sure she will help you, at the end she is the one with experience in life...
2006-12-17 19:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by yop! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop being a baby. Go and see your dad and be grateful he wants to spend Christmas with you.
2006-12-17 19:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is his time to see you. Give it a chance. How would you feel if you were unable to see your child on Christmas even though legally it was your turn? Seems like it's unfair to him.
2006-12-17 18:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just call your dad and tell him how you feel. Don't be miserable.
2006-12-17 18:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by coko823 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋