I had been together with my fiance for 2years and 8 months. At the moment its very hard to accept that we arnt together anymore. I love him alot and care about him so much he cares and feels the same way but our decision to break up ended up being mutural we bothe still want to be friends and catch up once in a while is it possible that i will eventually get over him and we can be good friends?
2006-12-17 10:48:14 · 14 answers · asked by Nat555 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Time is the major factor on how successful it will turn out to be.
I have seen relationships come and go in different styles and feelings. But I have seen your situation end in a friendly manner and is still in tact today. It might help to keep a distance for a while, and who knows some thing might spark up again with you and him. However if you are just looking to stay friends, I recommend you letting go of a lot of emotions and questions to where they are going in life (do not get to involved). It might end up hurting you or him.
good luch
Gregory
2006-12-17 10:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by Gregory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is going to be hard at first to remain friends with an ex-fiancee'.
You will be jealous of his new friends, and will still feel that he has some obligation to you.
However, you can still be friends. You just need to set comfortable boundaries between you and the ex.
He should understand because believe me he will have issues with you being with another man. You need to tell each other that you will not discuss each others personal lives; at this time.
Things will change sooner or later, and you both will be talking about your new lives.
Just take things slow, and try not to let the "green eyed devil" get you!
2006-12-17 10:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by Meko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you had a good solid relationship and both agreed to the break up then why not what would stop you from being friends I was and still am friends with two people in my life that I was with for 8 and 10 years respectively all have to do is work at it just like you do any other relationship
2006-12-17 10:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by doc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey,
You said this was a mutual agreement, but I think NOT. By the sounds you are still very much in love with this guy. Maybe if you are just friends for a while who knows what might happens. Maybe he will decide that he had a good thing with you and wants you back. And if not than get on with your life. Like they say "Life`s A Beech". My prayers are with you. GOOD LUCK
2006-12-17 11:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need time to heal first. You need to be completley over him or it wont work. Dont let old feelings come creeping back and if you do always remember why it ended. You guys can definatley be friends in the end but a long time is needed to "get over" eachother.
2006-12-17 11:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by Miranda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF BOTH OF YOU STILL HAVE FEELINGS ABOUT EACH OTHER THAN ITS PRETTY HARD TO GET OVER IT. CUZ SOONER OR LATER ONE OF YOU WILL START REMINISCING AND BEFORE YOU KNOW IT YOU GUYS WILL DO SOMETHING AND WILL JUST GET YOUR FEELINGS ALL MIXED UP IF YOU GUYS DONT WANT TO BE TOGETHER ANYMORE STAY AWAY FROM EACH OTHER FOR A LONG TIME, JUST SO BOTH OF YOU CAN GET OVER EACH OTHER ONCE THAT HAPPENS THEN YOU CAN FINALLY START TALKING AGAIN.
2006-12-17 10:54:18 · answer #6 · answered by steveabilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good friends share details of their lives w/each other, right? Would you ever be able to hear him go on and on talking about his new g/f, wife, or new baby later in the future..? That answers your question.
2006-12-17 10:52:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very good friends with my x husband that I was married to for 19 yrs. I also like his new wife too. In fact, we go shopping together. So yes, it's very possible. ~~
2006-12-17 10:51:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure its not easy at first, but time heals all. I'm sure if you two still care about each other if as a friend that u could. Give it time, it will get easier everyday.
2006-12-17 10:52:04 · answer #9 · answered by helpful friend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
eventually meaning..a long time..i couldnt be friends with my ex for more then a week..and then we just got back together.. i missed him SOO much and i realized that even though it hurt so much when he broke my heart, i STILL wanted to be with him and the pain of him not being there was worse then any future pain he could inflict. i think you and your ex should give it another shot..call it crazy..i dont even know you..but dont give up on love.
2006-12-17 10:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋