I have nightmare years living with him, now even 10 years later he haunts me. He insinuates his way to his children's life when they don't wants them around. He will hurt anyone to get his way with things. He steals, lies, cheats and pretends to be a good man. He isn't. He has so much power that he takes over everything. Everyone is afraid of him, yet they kiss up to him because no one wants to deal with him. I am like left in a hole so to speak because people don't want to deal with him. I am so emotionally crushed that the man who was suppose to love me and I should trust was really an evil man. And I was so neive that I didn't see it. I believed whatever he said.
He is in town and I fear him. He marches around like he owns everything. I just don't know how to explain it. His youngest son killed himself becaue of this man. How much worse can life get.
Help. This guy is sick yet no one has the balls to stand up to him,
2006-12-17 10:41:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Darling it is time to date a bigger guy, go out and get yourself a guy and yes give him a heads up about the situation, and see if he can help. Guy's like your ex are all jerks and so tough, but all it takes is one that will put him in his place and the man will crumble a bit. I have seen this and seen the girl get a new hulky looking b/f and be rid of the ex for the most part. I hope I was some help. Hey you might even think about dating a officer, just a thought. Good luck.
2006-12-17 10:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a sociopath for awhile, and like you, never had a clue what was going on. He was a well respected surgeon, but nutty as a fruitcake... there are 7 criteria for what it is now called -- antisocial behavior disorder. You can Google this, and click on the one that has the 7 criteria. Three is a diagnosis, this guy had 5.... and you are correct, they have no remorse.... they can even pass a lie detector test, because at the moment, they have no idea what they do is wrong...... it is a personality defect, big time
What can you do? Nothing. Be unavailable...you are not expected to defend him. It's been over a long time, hon. Think you are way too sensitive on how others view you... They don't expect you to defend him or think much about him...... the only way to handle a person like this is just to ignore them.......and you should as well.... Probably most of his "friends" just blow him off anyway, and talk about him behind his back
2006-12-17 23:11:07 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sociopaths change reality to fit in to their world. You are lucky that you finally saw his lies. Just think where you would be today if you hadn't!!! He will manilupate everything around him to make him look good because that is the only way he can define himself.
He will twist and turn reality around until it fits him and evern convince others of such things.
I was married to a man like this. And he still hurts me. He punishes me for leaving him. I have to remember that he is the one with the problem, not me. He lives in a self created fairy tale and people who get to know him start to hate him. But, they put up with him because he makes it impossible for people to get around him. It is easier for people to bow to him, than to stand up for anyone he has hurt along the way.
I know people will say........you are letting him punish you. So you need to stop letting him. Ok, that works for a bit, but give yourself time to grieve and be upset when he upsets you, Then pull yourself together and get the best revenge by being happy & sucessful. if that is possible. Do n't let him destroy your spirit. He did enough of that while you were married. He will never stop. You just need to find ways to deal with the madness.
I have a good cry. Take a chill pill and then go to the movies or s omething to destract myself. It takes time to get such a manilupative asssssssssswhole out of your life. Don't give up.
You might feel alone at times , but at least you are away from him.
Take good care of yourself.
Hugs
2006-12-17 18:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not even you-well it is time you let him know that you are not afraid of him-even if you are never let him know that you are-he is now your ex-there are men that live to make their ex-wives miserable if you let him-now is the time to stand up for yourself-if you don't do it now you never will live a peaceful life-and get him out of your life-his youngest son killed his self because of him if you keep on you Will be next-if those other people don't want to deal with him let them tell him that-fear is what he want you to feel-let the police know that you are afraid of him-let him know that there are small humps and large humps in the cemetery-and that you are no longer afraid of him and you don't want him around you now or ever again-he don't own you-you are his ex and you are your woman if you let him rule you he will continue-stop him now-you stand up for yourself and if he don't like if tough-he is no longer your husband-so why are so afraid of him-he is not sick-he is playing a mind game with all of you and none of you can see that-all he need is for one of you to stand up to him and see how fast he get the heck away from all of you
2006-12-17 19:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in a very hard situation and even harder one to get out of do you have any relatives that you can lean on like ones named bubba that know how to use a shotgun correctly. Unfortunately this kind of idiot male is all to prevalent in this day and age when they should have all died out with the dinosaurs not all of us are like that... contact any local state or federal association that deal with domestic violence and go on record voicing your fears. that might get you some help.... also join a women's group for emotional and physically battered women and seek help from them they are well verrsed in what can and cannot be done ...above all be careful and avoid this jerk at all costs.
2006-12-17 18:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by doc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, my God! I am so sorry. I've lost family members to suicide, too, and I have known my fair share of sociopaths. My heart goes out to you.
You need to protect your children at all costs. Please try to keep them away from their father....I would really recommend talking about this situation with a doctor, police officer, or counselor of some sort. They will be able to help you come up with better ideas to keep your family safe.
2006-12-17 18:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋