Firstly, Im not crazy. I have been dating a girl for 2 months and even though its not a long time, i feel very strongly for her. We had been talking about moving in together. Last week a guy that lives in another state called her (a past unresolved relationship) and she told me she wanted to step our relationship down because her feelings fo rme have gone away and she doesnt know where they went. 2 weeks ago we were talking about moving in and now she doesnt even want to hold my hand. I deeply care for this girl and I dont know how to show her that I wont hurt her (as she has been hurt before). HELP! Any advice will!
2006-12-17 10:29:59 · 20 answers · asked by Jason B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Firstly, Im not crazy. I have been dating a girl for 2 months and even though its not a long time, i feel very strongly for her. We had been talking about moving in together. Last week a guy that lives in another state called her (a past unresolved relationship) and she told me she wanted to step our relationship down because her feelings fo rme have gone away and she doesnt know where they went. 2 weeks ago we were talking about moving in and now she doesnt even want to hold my hand. I deeply care for this girl and I dont know how to show her that I wont hurt her (as she has been hurt before). HELP! Any advice will!
I have let her know how i feel and am stepping back to let her do some searching
2006-12-17 10:37:49 · update #1
Let her go, if it is meant to be she will be back. Don't wait for her in the mean time, just let her know you care and move on. Maybe one day you two will be together, but she has made it clear that she wants to figure out what is going on with her past relationship. It is better for her to find out now, than months later have her cheat on you or always wonder...
2006-12-17 10:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by I carry your heart with me... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know it's nice to care for someone as you do , but think before you leap . Because if you two do get together she'll be the one hurting you in the long run , you see she's young and fickle and doesn't know yet what she wants . So if you push her she will stay with you but the cheating will start soon after . Is this the kind of relationship you really want ?? I truly believe you should step aside and let her make up her mind before you mess up her mind more then it is already , Please let your heart lead you not your mind , because our minds always place tricks on all of us , what do you think ? Can you wait for her, is she worth waiting for ? ? .
2006-12-17 18:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by I'M JUST TRYING TO HELP YOU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first it's nice to see you care so much and will do whatever it takes to show her.. howver my advice is to do as she wishes and step back but make it clear that you are there for her if the decision she is making turns to be bad.. be a friend and her support system thats the best way to show her you care.. you can't push you wanting the relationship on her she will be more likely to break off all ties to you and that would be a really big mistake.. so love her from a far and be there to pick her up that will show more than anything else and perhaps she will open her eyes...
2006-12-17 18:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has a n unresolved relationship, best to just let it be! Unresolved is something unfinished, I feel how much you care but you are better off just bowing out gracefully in the long run, if it is meant to be it will be! Take care of you first! Peace!
2006-12-17 18:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by lainey lain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a strong and loving person. I am confirming what you already know. Remember that you will always attract what is equal to you. When your mind shifts you attract different things. Your mind has shifted for better things ahead, the girl will go or she will come back, its not up to you to decide. You must go forward knowing that there are greater things ahead because you have asked for them, and they are coming...please trust and be patient. True love is ahead for you.
Best thoughts.
2006-12-17 18:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by Bacistocaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. Go your way and cut all ties! Forget it. If she did this once she'll do it again, someone new that's not you or someone from the past that's not you! You deserve better and you should get it! So move on... Listen to Continuum by John Mayer particularly one song! *Heart of Life and move on! I'll be your girl ;-)
2006-12-17 18:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a girl, take my advice, words do much but actions do more. If you do care you would be showing her that all the time and most of all. Dont be someone else in doing what you do
2006-12-17 18:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by 313honey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you've only been together for 2 months... i think u should write her a letter and tell her how u feel about her explaining how u want to be with her and how much u care and how ur not going to hurt her. maybe get her some flowers...
2006-12-17 18:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Summer B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. It would be a one sided relationship. I know it hurts but don't let your heart do the thinking this time. You probably would never be able to trust her. I wish you all the luck.
2006-12-17 18:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by cswint2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient, try to get her to talk about what happened between her and the other guy, and find out where he went wrong and show her that you wont make that same mistake
2006-12-17 18:33:07 · answer #10 · answered by Jon C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋