If someone loses a spouse due to death, should they continue to participate in that spouses’ family functions, holidays, and parties for the rest of their life? And what about a new partner? Should they be expected to come along and exchange gifts with that family too? Is there any certain logic or etiquette one can follow here?
2006-12-17 10:21:04 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that is tuff one ask the family if they would mind if you brought your new parnter there. chances are you have formed such a bond with them they may not mind ,, but play it safe just in case
2006-12-17 10:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically just because a spouse passes on, doesnt mean thats the end for you with their immediate family. You both have lost the same person. Stay in touch with the family for now then start slowly cutting back time spent with them as you still are alive and will need to get on with life. You can still send cards for whatever occasion just to let them know how you are. You owe them nothing as far as your private life is concerned but dont lie to them if they ask. They cant expect you to stay committed to their dead child forever. Dont takes anew partner with you there as they do not belong. You will remain a part of their family for life so be nice to them. You may want to exchange presents this year since Xmas is so close but forget next year unless they ask you to. No real rules to follow here, just common sense and sensitive feelings. Good luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-17 10:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my hubby in May and just got back spending the weekend with my in laws to celebrate Christmas with them. I am really not sure if I am going to do it again, but since I have their grandson I feel it is necessary to remain a part of their lives forever. When and if I do find someone new I am not sure how I will handle it. I can tell you this my husbands first wife and her boyfriend where there also because he had three children with her and I felt very uncomfortable with her and her new boyfriend being there. I do not think that it was easy for everyone, but sometimes for families you have to do such things. Just remember that things change from year to year and for now just go with the flow.
2006-12-17 10:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋