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2006-12-17 10:20:45 · 11 answers · asked by Michael 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My g/f was raped by a two close friends about 6 months ago. She has been through consuling and all. She is becoming her normal self again. She has been asking me is I am ok eventhough we haven't had sex and I said yes, I am fine. She says she really wants to have sex. Should I?? How should I expect her to react??(ie- will it remind her of the last guy, will she be freaked out from flashbacks)
I want to do what will help her and she says this will.
Please give me some advice!! (thanx!!)
Sometimes when I touch her a certain way, she still get freaked out. I have told her I won't leave her if we don't have sex, but she still wants to have sex. Should I??
2006-12-17 10:21:48 · update #1
Take it slow with her ask her what to do ask her to let you know whats ok and whats not.
2006-12-17 11:51:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was taken advantage of at a young age. I thought that sex was the only way to be accepted by the opposite sex for the longest time. She's probably not over it and feels like sex is all she is worth. That is how I was and I ended up making some major mistakes in my life. My advice to you is to give her a little more time to think it over and treat her like sex has nothing to do with how much you love her.
2006-12-17 11:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her do the leading, maybe she would rather do it with the lights on for a while,
You can it expect it to take many years for her to finish dealing with this, and she may never.
Right now though she will proberly need your constant reasurance (sounds like your doing great there) she proberly wants to know that she is still attractive to you and may not really be ready.
Just follow her lead and if she gets to freaked out tell her it's okay to stop, and make sure she knows you will not be mad or resentfull, it was a VERY tramatic experience for her, you too I bet however unless you've been there no one can tell you exactly how scary and humiliating having your power taken away is.
2006-12-17 10:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by jrnwy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take things very slow. The first time might be the roughest for her, but keep in mind that she is the one that can decide if she is ready. Just keep reassuring her that you love her no matter what and that sex doesnt change your mind about leaving her. You sound like a great guy in a tough sitution, good for you for standing by her.
2006-12-17 10:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she was the one to tell you that it is okay to have sex. And she was the one to suggested it. You shouldn't push her away. By her wanting to have sex again it shows that she is at the point where she has gotten over what occured.
2006-12-17 10:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by mizthang_keisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh gosh i am so sorry
you have to take it slow very slow there is no rush make it calming for her soft lights music show her how special she is take time for her needs i am sure you will be just fine
good luck
respect
shaz
2006-12-18 02:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by sharon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be supportive.It may take a long time for her to get over her ordeal.She may find it hard to have sex when the time comes so be patient.
2006-12-17 10:52:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she thinks she'll be ok the only way to know will be to do it. just take it slow and be prepared to back off if she changes her mind. you sound like a great guy to be so patient with her.
2006-12-17 10:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mandi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u want to, you should respect that she is strong enuff to move on and do it w/ her.
2006-12-17 13:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i would give it a year.
2006-12-17 10:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋