Last week, I started a temp-to-hire job for a seemingly great company. I am a new mom with an 8 month old and I wanted a job that was flexible. The job is not as flexible as I was lead to believe and the commute, which I knew would be bad, is actually horrible. (I am in the suburbs and the job is downtown, so I am looking at an hour plus commute usually, when I am use to having a 25 minute commute). I talked to my recruiter on Thursday, saying I need to withdraw, the commute is killing me and she suggested I work part-time if the client is amenable to that--that I should just give it more time to get use to the job. I feel I should withdraw now because as soon as I find a job that is closer, I would take it in a minute. I think it would be fairer to the client to leave now and not invest any more time in training me. I just don't want to look like a quitter to my recruiter. BTW, the job is not bad, I just have been too tired from the commute to really have my heart be in it.
2006-12-17 10:09:48 · 5 answers · asked by HCH32 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
I believe as long as you are completely honest with your recruiter they will not view you as a quitter. I was working for a staffing firm (which was about an hours commute from my new home) and we were always more willing to work with the people that were honest and dependable. The recruiter may want you to stay and work part-time to keep the client happy while they find someone else to take your place. Or possibly even find you a better fit somewhere else. Keep the lines of communication open. Let the recruiter know exactly why you are not happy with the postion (lack of rest due to the commute and new child, lack of flexibility you were looking for). Also share your concerns about the amount of time being invested by the other company in training you. The recruiter may or may not know how much is involved. Sharing all of these things makes it easier for the recruiter to make the right choices for you and the client. If it seems like the recruiter is not paying attention to your needs you may ask to work with someone else or just go to another agency.
Good luck :-)
2006-12-17 10:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by kimemeki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense here, (I swear!) but here is a huge difference between men and women. Men are more apt to look at this company as a blessing, despite the commute and the hours. Women look at it as a job that is interfering with the child-rearing process. I don't know which is better, but I know which is easier...the man's perspective. Usually a man is being supported by his wife who can get off earlier and pick up the kids. This is usually because the man gets less lenience from a company than a woman when it comes to "childcare" issues.
Here's the thing. I used to be a single Dad so I know how hard it is to balance wanting to be successful at work and taking decent care of a child. When I started one particular job I was worried about this and I made sure my boss was aware of my situation and obligations to my child when I first started. I made sure he knew that I would do anything I could to get the job done, even work on days that my daughter was with her mom (weekends) to make up anything I may have missed from not working overtime (which the job required). To my surprise, he was VERY understanding. I ended up leaving the job after a year and a half because my ex-wife got custody of my daughter and she lived five hours away...needless to say I wanted to be close to my daughter so I had to move.
The way I look at YOUR situation is this; if you really think this company is "great," that is important. Ask your husband (I'm making an assumption here) if he can pick up your baby two to three nights a week, and drop the baby off on the days he doesn't pick the baby up. This may allow you to come in a little later on the days he picks him/her up and come in earlier when your husband drops the baby off. You'll find that will eliminate the traffic of the commute for most days and alleviate some of your stress.
If this is not an option, ask others for help before you decide to look for a closer job. I know it may not seem like it now, but a good company really makes life good in the long run. And while I'll never regret leaving the company I did for my daughter (who I now have split custody of - thank you Jesus), I'll always wonder what my life would have been like had I stayed at that company.
Hope this helps, wish you the best of luck in all your endeavors.
2006-12-17 10:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not the job, it is the commute that you do not like..............do not waste any more time there. It is you and your child that you need to worry about, not the company, not the recruiter. If the requiter does not like that you are quitting, hire another recruiter.
Good luck
2006-12-17 10:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the job is bearable I would stay until you find a new gig. A company does what is in the best interest, you should do what is in your best interst.
However I would start looking for a job closer as soon as possible
2006-12-17 10:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by Jerry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave now, but let the client know your reason for leaving. Too far to drive plus you have your child to take care of.
2006-12-17 12:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by scott p 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋