my ex g/f friend of 4 years broke up with me 5 weeks ago it was clean no shouting i left she is dealing with anarexica,college, work etc; i think the break up was due to this i want to help her and would love to see her she said she wanted to stay friends but when i call or text to see if she wants to meet 4 a quick drink etc; she is allways busy i have not called her ever day so i am not pressuring her just i thought that is what she wanted so i want to be there for her if she can not see me is that because she has feelings for me still or confussed it's xmas and i don't expect her to take me back just to see her to talk or am i being selfish!!!!!!!!
2006-12-17 10:07:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not really selfish as concerned with an under lying desire to get her back. Just leave her a message that you are there for her if she wants for anything and wish her the best of luck. and leave it at that. Just do it once or itll seem like youre hounding her and that wont do any good. In a month leave her another message seeing how shes doing and stop at that. This way you wont seem to pushy but yet well concerned about her. You just need to be patient with her and give her time and space. Good luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-17 10:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four years can not be "gotten over" in 5 weeks and if she's dealing with anarexica she's probably got issues older and deeper then your relationship to look at first.
Secondly, do you really think you are capable of being her "friend" after 4years of being more than a friend. What if she starts seeing somebody else? A friend would be able to talk to her about him...could you talk to her about a new boyfriend?
2006-12-17 10:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Stephen G. Barr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to call or ask, maybe it is too soon for her. She may be needing the break if she has her schooling, eating disorder to deal with.
You are not being selfish, yet you may have to let her call on you. It is hard, I do know. Pretend you do not know her nbr. Remove it from your cell. Focus on your life. Send her a Christmas greeting and go out with YOUR friends.
2006-12-17 10:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by strong1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking a breakup is a breakup. It is best for both of you to move on. I hope she is not the loneliest person on the planet; she will find friends and family members to support her. Maintaing a relationship with an ex is a waste of time and painful for both. I think you have been a gentleman but she is telling you that she wants both of you to move on.
2006-12-17 10:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Except it pal, she's over you ... let her go.... she doesn't want to see you because she has no romantic feelings for you anymore!
People come up with all kind of excuses because they don't want to hurt the other one but believe me, if you push it she will quit being kind .... maybe that's what it will take for you to move on?
Been there, done that many, many times!
2006-12-17 10:16:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol schedule dates! i'm completely severe. like set up dates with each and every guy that asks you out and choose later in case you cherished any of them. it will keep issues less than administration, and not in any respect finished chaos
2016-11-27 00:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shoot him!!! LOL
2006-12-17 10:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by Answer Champion 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋