On the other hand, men who are cool and confident are viewed as "boring" and "too nice".
Why is this? Do healthy, well-adjusted men need to start being obnoxious jerks so that women will like them?
2006-12-17 09:55:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Well, first of all, I think many women are attracted to the bad boy image because they are still young and immature and perhaps have never actually dated a decent guy in their lives. Most of the older (and by older, I mean late 20s and up) women I talk to would never dream of devoting themselves to some scum bag who's going to treat them like garbage, no matter how good looking he is.
I was one of those foolish girls who dated an absolute bum for a longer time than I care to admit. Now that i am with a decent, respectable man, i can't imagine how I could ever have been such an idiot, nor would I ever go back to the bad boy style. They actually make me feel sick when I come across them, and nother would ever induce me to date someone like that ever again.
There's hope for all the great men in the world. keep being yourself, and eventually, you will get what is coming to you--in a good way.
2006-12-17 10:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by mlle-fantine 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think some women like to be with a man that other women would like to be with. often times people like to show off what better way than having a guy who seems the soul of the party and a little bit risky. (A bad boy). Yet many women soon grow out of this strange attraction its called maturity those women who just can not get enough of the so called Bad boy lack any real self worth. In time we all want to be with a peacfull loving person. I also find that you are who you are. well adjusted men can not turn into bad boys they could not pull it off like wise bad boys can not change into decent men what happens is that we all get older. and situations in our lifes change and we have to adjust. in most situations the woman/girl of a bad boy will try and change him when she matures. Providing she has self worth.
2016-05-23 02:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women find loud, rude men to be "sexy bad boys". The smart ones see them as loud and rude, and steer clear of them.
I suggest healthy, well adjusted men look for healthy well-adjusted women, and stop being interested in the women who haven't gotten through their need to "fix him and make him better" stage.
2006-12-17 10:05:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kaia 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Being mean to keep them keen, only works on women who have no self-respect and are therefore not worth keeping for the long term. Women who are easily impressed by loud, rude fellows, have a couple of brain cells missing. Or they are just as bad, and therefore able to cope with so-called nasty boys. Do not despair: nice guys are "keepers" in many nice girls' books; just don't get caught in the claws of a bad girl, okay? Good luck.
2006-12-17 12:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by montrealissima 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Immaturity on their part. Sometimes a lack of intelligence and foresight. They're not thinking ahead or thinking logically; they're thinking about how good he probably is in bed and how cool she'll look if she dates him.
I guess they have what I like to refer to as 'tunnel vision', in that they cannot see beyond simplicities; that there is far more to a relationship than what they are looking for.
You'll find older and more educated women tend to be the opposite when it comes to guys. Women come to grips with reality; these 'bad boys' don't hold good relationships, arn't good fathers and they lose interest in them eventually any way because they have no substance to their hollow relationship. Since really, the term 'bad boy' is just a nice way of saying 'Dumb selfcentered teenage man who has is good at playing women'.
2006-12-17 11:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Healthy, well-adjusted, women leave the type of men you mentioned to the less well-adjusted women of the world.
2006-12-17 18:16:39 · answer #6 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't speak for those women who do think that. personally, i only hang out with my friends, and they are the type of people who will notice when a guy is nice. i've never been on good terms with a guy who's loud and rude, and i am never on bad terms with a guy who's quiet and nice. the problem is, quiet, nice guys, as well as loud and rude guys, tend to only notice the whores who like the "sexy bad boys" so the nice girls have to sit around listening to their guy-friends talk about how hot so-and-so is. if nice guys started liking nice girls, everybody would be happier. of course, i'm sure the same thing happens to guys. i'm just saying, if you're a "nice guy" i know how you feel. the same thing happens to us.
2006-12-17 10:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by fireflower413 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
some women are stupid.
why do you expect women to be remarkably better than men? Some men are stupid too. Does this really surprise you?
Lots of nice girls like nice guys. Girls who go with bad boys often have issues and are often hence trouble. You are chasing the wrong girls my friend.
2006-12-17 12:43:26 · answer #8 · answered by searchingForGirlCallSunsetDec21 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I actually think pensive, quiet, mysterious boys are the "sexy bad boys". Loud, rude men are just what you said loud, rude men.
2006-12-17 12:27:35 · answer #9 · answered by gymspirit 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is the thought of risky adventures with them. But also, those types of men tend to be the least faithful and some women are okay with that.
2006-12-17 12:37:51 · answer #10 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋