We had a fight about a married man she has know for years and has been secretly seeing. I got very angry and told her if she wants to be with him then she needs to leave. I wish I hadn't said that, because that is not what I want. The next day, while I was at work, she took the kids and moved them to her sisters house. She will not let me see them unless I sign a paper she wrote, saying that she has physical custody of them. I live in washington. I don't know what I can do to see my kids, without signing my rights away. I love my wife and children. I think that if she continues keeping them from me, she will set a precedent that will almost assure her of custody. If I sign the paper it will have the same effect. I am going out of my mind. I need some sound advice!!! Any lawyers out there??? I don't want to unneccesarily give up my rights! I love Arianna and Jennifer with all my heart!
2006-12-17 09:44:49 · 13 answers · asked by jerdaddy2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Visit your local courthouse and file for visitation in family court. She has absolutely no right to keep you from seeing your kids. Whatever you do, do not sign anything. A judge will hear your case and set regular visitation up for you and your kids and if she does not follow the courts ruling, she can be locked up.
2006-12-17 09:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't reach an agreement with your wife by both of you acting like adults and doing what is in the best interests of your children, then you need to take the matter to court. I am not sure exactly how it goes in Washington. Some places have mediators that will sit down with both parties to reach a custody agreement. Some places you have to speak to a judge and the judgemakes a decision. If you are a member of a union at work, sometimes your union will provide free lawyer representation for child custody situations. Retain a lawyer and go from there.
2006-12-17 09:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by Carole 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT sign those papers. One day your children will want to know what is wrong with them because their daddy doesn't want them. Get a lawyer as fast as you can. I also suggest that you get counseling. Maybe your wife will join you later. In the meantime you need someone that is outside of the problem and can be objective. Counselors can really help. Whatever happens keep assuring your kids that you love them and don't talk badly about your wife to them. I can't stress this enough. I will be praying for you. Good luck.
2006-12-17 09:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by jan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should not sign anything and she can not hold that over you. Talk to friends of the court or family services (different states calls them different tthings) You have the right to visit them and have them half time. Often this type of holding the kids for ransom is over money. She wants custody since she gets more money than. Look it over and od not sign anything and get the courts involved. You do not even need a lawyer for this part.
2006-12-17 09:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by don 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is horrible and I am very sorry for your situation ,more for your children who,( even when parents are to busy in fights), are the ones that suffer more.I don't know much but I would advise you NOT to sign any paper, it is illegal for her to ask you to sign anything, and if you need to see your children ,and/or talk to your wife you can call the police to escort you,right now is the only thing you can do..till you get to talk to her and hopefully everything will work out.If not, you will have to go to a lawyer and tell him about her request!!
2006-12-17 09:59:25 · answer #5 · answered by kittybebe12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep your head and hire an attorney! Don't sign anything!! Don't talk to her about anything from now on unless it is about seeing your children.
Do not slip up and say anything emotional that will jeopardize you winning your up coming civil suit with her, because believe me....It's coming! Hire an attorney and listen to every word he/she tells you and make it your religion until this suit is over. You won't lose your children unless you do something stupid. Let your attorney try the case----(Keep quiet in court unless spoken to and only answer the question asked. Do not bad-mouth your ex/her...EVER!)
You say you still love your wife.....You can cry about all this later. Concentrate on winning your case (YOUR CHILDREN....IT'S ALL ABOUT THEM!!).
Get over your wife, because she has already gotten over you! Good luck!
2006-12-17 09:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to the family court in your county and get an order for visitation or custody of the children. That is binding by law and she can't do anything about it.
2006-12-17 13:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by Sally B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`m so sorry for you. It sounds like you love your children very much and also your wife who has done you wrong. Don`t sign her paper. Go to family court and get your papers. GOOD LUCK
2006-12-17 09:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick up a phone and call a lawyer. You need professional advice.
2006-12-17 09:49:22 · answer #9 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only way to" see" the kids is to reconcile with the mom.you ned to first look back at the relatonship and see where it when wrong.she has let someone else into your "special" place.FIND A WAY BACK TO HER HEART.I love is what brought you together she maystill have tat warm spot ,you have to find it.always keep contact with kids,even over the phone if possible.PUT YOUR PRIDE ASIDE.
2006-12-17 09:53:33 · answer #10 · answered by poppi1146 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋