ok well i am a lesbian. i ended it with my gf becky because i saw her to much as we are at college togeather an she was a bit clingy and im the flirting type i like to be with the gf but not to much. but now she has a bf 1 of my "friends" now i cant stop thinking about her i really have to tho an i was wondring if any1 had ideas of how to get her off my mind?? or what shall i do im so confussed please help me
vickixx
2006-12-17 09:26:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
the best way to get a girl off your mind is to get another one. soon you will be on her mind....
2006-12-17 09:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by mr. buns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a distinct difference between someone that is flirtatious and someone that isn't really looking for commitment. I know plenty of involved people that are naturally flirtatious, yet managed to be loyal and committed. There are a few aspects to consider here...if you're not ready to be in a relationship, then being that you're at college I think it's a prime opportunity to go out and meet new people and casually date. That will help get her off your mind. There are no easy ways to get an ex off your mind that I am aware of...if you find one, please share. Anotner thing to consider is that she may be on your mind for a few different reasons...one possibly being that she moved on into a new relationship rather quickly.
If there is confusion, I really don't suggest you jump in there and try to get back with her. If nothing has really changed for you since you both split up, then most likely the cycle will repeat and you will end up breaking up all over again. Maybe continue a friendship with her, and if things sort out in a way that brings you back together (if that's what you want) then it will work itself to that in time. For now I would recommend you getting out there and making new friends and what not.
2006-12-17 09:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by Ev 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in uni too. I know I want to be near the end of my grad studies before settling down. I also know how hard it is to get over a love.
I simply tell myself I will not seriously get involved, so far it works.
As far as your ex, the situation may be worse because she wound up with a he. Down deep that makes you think more about her than if she had gone after another female. Also, it is normal to have strong memories and thoughts for a while. It has happened to me, though I was not officially "attached" I do wish you well. It ought to get better as other interests begin to attract you again. I don't mean romantic interests, of course. Activities such as those mentioned in other responses.
Charles "That Cheeky Lad"
2006-12-17 19:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think if you're at college and you aren't interested in getting in a serious relationship you shouldn't do. If you're the flirting type and you're at college you will tend to eye up other women, because college is full of women your age going out and clubbing and dancing. I wouldn't recommend you get back with her unless you know you would change your ways, you can't tell her to "hold on" while you get this out of your system and it's not fair to be eying up other women and be constantyl tempted while you're with her.
I think you should move on, at least for now. If you can keep her as a friend that's good, and live out your college years single or dating and in a casual relationship. If you feel the same way out of college or when you find yourself settling down then approach her.
2006-12-17 09:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by jleslie4585 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried about her if she was to clingy. It sounds like you still want to be with her. If that is the situation then you need to be honest with her. You should had thought about it before leaving her. If you don't want a relationship then you need to make sure that anyone in the future knows that.
2006-12-17 11:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by person48653 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, if there's an easy way to get over an ex, I've never heard of it.
It'll take a while, just try and get through it.
2006-12-17 09:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by Brian 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with mr. buns but not just any girl you have to really like the next girl in order to stop thinking about the other chick. it works.
good luck.
2006-12-17 11:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by shay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
decide what type of relationship you want with a woman! if you don't want a one on one with a woman but want to be flirty then why are you hurt?
2006-12-17 10:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by awokenbutterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and find another partner,life is to short to be sad.
2006-12-17 09:34:47 · answer #9 · answered by st.abbs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find the formula to get over an ex please let me have the secret... I am still heartbroken over my ex and I was the one the ended it!!!!!
2006-12-21 06:17:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋