why is my fiance's ex-fiance still wearing her engagement ring after a break up 4 years ago?

Question

my fiance's ex-fiance who lives overseas calls him at work every 3 months and asks what she should do with the engagement ring he gave her. The engagement has been broken off 4 years ago.
He keeps telling her to keep it. She STILL wears it on her right hand. What is her intention?

Answer 1

Tell him to tell her to send it back. She will stop calling!

She likes the ring. Otherwise she wouldn't keep wearing it. She keeps calling because she still likes him and thinks of him from time to time.

You are a woman. You know we do that sometimes when we can't let go. If she had definitely moved on, she wouldn't keep calling. And her new man would ask her to stop wearing the ring.

If he really wanted to get rid of her calls...just tell her to send it back. That way, he could cut the string that ties them.

It's worth the try to see what happens. No doubt she will get upset and tell him that she can't believe he would ask for it back. His response could be "well you keep asking me what to do with it. Obviously you don't know what to do with it and don't want it."

Hmmm......

Worth the try...

Answer 2

I think she's still wearing the ring because she might still have hope that he will go back with her someday. See, my boyfriend of five years broke up with me about two months ago. At first I thought he would get back with me and i kept calling him for two weeks. He didn't want to hurt me more and he said that there was a big 75% chance that he will not get back with me and a low 25% chance that he would. A week later I told him how hurt i was and ask him to please come back to me and he said no. He said he could be my friend and he would get my calls but he did not love me anymore. I thought about calling him but then i said no. I know he would still get my calls if i call him but that would prevent me from moving on, at least faster. I think having no contact is better. Your fiance should be more hard on her even if he doesn't want to hurt her. I think that is the only way she will definitely move on. And, i think she is gonna thank him someday for being honest with her and helping her to move on. I hope that helps. Good luck!

Answer 3

The ring must be nice, or she is still hung up on ur dude. If she broke off the engagement, then she should have given the ring back, but if he broke it off, then it is his loss and he can move on without the ring AND the girl. Unless the ring is a family heirloom, then no matter who breaks it off, it should be given back. Although I never understood why if a girl breaks up with a guy and gives him the ring back, who is he gonna give it to. That ring was meant specifically for THAT ONE girl and it is just wrong and plain trashy to give it to someone else. Tacky as well.

Answer 4

It's sounds like she is having a hard time letting go.Why don't you sit down with your fiance and talk about it.If she was feeling good about herself and moving on with her life she would have given him back the ring on her own accord..I could understand if she rang once or twice the first year,but every couple of months isn't from a normal healthy minded person.I hope that every thing works out for you.Take care.

Answer 5

Why think there is some reason for her to wear it? It shouldn't matter to you whether she wears it or not. After all, she lives overseas and not near you or your fiancee. You can't control what someone else does or doesn't do so why concern yourself over her? You can control your reaction to what people do or don't do. Don't let someone else's actions bother you. Your fiancee must deal with her phone calls and I would think that he would want to change his phone number just so she wouldn't bother him anymore if he truly loves you. If it were me, I would certainly do it and I would tell my ex-fiancee that I don't care what she does with the ring. I would also tell her to stop calling me.

Answer 6

I think you should ask yourself why you care whether this woman who can't let go of the past still wears a ring that has no significance anymore. You are the one who is married to the fellow, and you have no reason to feel insecure, and that is what you are feeling in my opinion. I think her intention is maybe to sew discontent in your relationship, and she seems to be succeeding, because you are letting it bother you, so put it out of your mind, and be thankful you are not like that.

Answer 7

Its her ring. If he let her keep it then she can wear it on her left hand if she wants. You are with him, not her. It doesn't symbolize what it did when he gave it to her anymore so don't worry. I do think however, she keeps the ring and keeps using it as an excuse to stay in contact with him. He needs to be firmer with her and let her know once and for all to keep the ring, he has moved on and she doesn't need to keep contacting him about it.

Answer 8

She might not be ready to let you go. Maybe she still has feelings for you and she has discovered them. Or maybe she just likes the ring alot. If she was over you, she wouldn't wear the ring at all though. hmmmmmmmmmmm
Maybe that is something you should ask her.

Answer 9

if she is overseas, how do u know she still wears it on her right
hand?
even if she wore it, its just a piece of jewelry
and if her calling him brothers both of u, why not tell her not to call any more
or u can have your fiance change his phone number

Answer 10

she's a psycho hose beast. she probably believes that as long as she has the ring, she will eventually marry him. next time she calls, have your fiance tell her to send the ring back, then have him destroy the ring, or sell it or what ever. if she continues to call or if she shows up, put out a restraining order.