Do I have a say of who I stay with??? I wanna stay with my mom but my dad wants to make me and my sister stay with him.
2006-12-17 09:18:35 · 24 answers · asked by Debbie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm 13 if that helps
2006-12-17 09:27:50 · update #1
You do have a say. Talk to both parents about it. Depending on where you live and how old you are, you may also have a legal say in it.
2006-12-17 09:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by TimmyD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's a difficult situation to be going through. I'm sorry that the two of you are stuck with having to think about that. This is a good time for prayer, Not for your parents to stay together (unless that is your wish) But for there to be peace in the end. I must agree with some of the others that know a little more about this situation than I do as far as your laws in your state and all. But keep your head up, Stay strong for you and your sister, Don't make fast decisions that may hurt more later on down the line. Things will get better. I'll keep you in my prayers although I have no name for you. I'll just pray for "Kagome". Peace be with you...
2006-12-17 09:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by egreen3rd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what state you live in and your age on whether you have a say in which parent you live with. But if your parents have it worked out amicably on which parent the kids should stay with then they are trying to make the decision they feel is in your best interest and you should go along with it if possible. If however you don't want to stay with your dad because he is hurting you in any way then you need to talk to an adult who can help you or call the police. Good luck I will pray for you.
2006-12-17 09:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That will be up to the judge, a lot depends on your age, and the circumstances the under which the divorce was filed. If you are ten or older, have your mother tell her attorney that you want a Gardian Ad Litem appointed by the court.
This will be an attorney that is working to protect you and your sister, not either parent, actually, the attorney will be working for the judge and make a recommendation to the judge reguarding custody.
2006-12-17 09:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your age and the state or country you live in. Divorce is tough, but a necessary thing for most couples. Most people grow in different directions. Not your fault. Just let your parents know who you want to stay with. Chances are you will have to stay with each parent a little anyway.
2006-12-17 09:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by tko43078 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are more than 12 you have the right to stay with whoever you want as long as they are happy to have you. A woman is generally better suited to raise a girl your age through adolescence and your father needs to accept your choice. You still get to see him every second weekend and during school holidays. Both your parents love you and are both very emotional right now so make sure you get what you want and don't become a bargaining pawn for them. I'm sorry you have to go through this but it will make you stronger at least.
2006-12-17 09:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by Pilgrim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In most divorce proceedings the court will hear from the children involved as to whom they want to live with and why. If you wish to stay with your Mom then let her know and tell her you will speak for yourself and tell the court the same thing. If they ask you why you want to stay with your Mom then be honest and tell them. There is no law that makes you stay with either one against your will if your mother or father are capable of supporting you.
2006-12-17 09:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kag: Sorry to hear about your parents choice to divorce ! There may be a justifiable reason for it though ! Anyways, to answer your question. Depending which Country and State you live in, the law 99% of the time sides with the mother. BUT; some allowance is made to have the children choose when they are of a predetermined age, by law, to accommodate them. The courts have to sanction [ allow ] this though. Talk with your parents to request through their lawyers to approach the court on your behalf for your request. My heart goes out to both, you and your sister for having to go through all of this. Love to you both !!!
2006-12-17 09:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my parents got a divorce when I was little. If you are old enough then you should have a say. Talk to your parents and tell them who you want to stay with and why. Tell your dad that it is okay and that you will visit him although you don't live with him.
2006-12-17 09:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by hearts101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooo. Sorry to hear that. Well, my friends' parents got a divorce an I asked her that same question and she said, "If you're under I think 14 or something, then you don't get to pick it's whoever wins custody over you. But if you're above the age then you do get to choose." Her sister is, like, 16 or 17, something around there and she got to choose, she chose her mom. So.... yeah.
2006-12-17 09:24:32 · answer #10 · answered by ☆ Sarah ☆ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it all depends on how old you are if you are over the age of 13 in some states they give you a say just tell your dad you want to live with your mom...but then in some states the judge picks who is best fit to be a good parent!!!!
2006-12-17 09:23:26 · answer #11 · answered by britty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋