I am the mother of 4. I have a teen, a 4 year old, and twins that are almost 2. My fiance' has been talkng about getting pregnant again. All I can think about is who is going to help me with all the kids. If I get pregnant again with twins can I handle all six. Not to mention I am not the kind of person who likes to be pregnant...however I do love kids.Please help!!
2006-12-17 09:09:41 · 12 answers · asked by kidspurplejade 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
You don't really seem comforatbale with the idea of another child right now (especially if it was twins again) I think its to soon. Maybe leave it until your twins are older (like 5) and a lot more self sufficient that way you will have a lot more time for another baby. At the moment you still have 3 babies who will need a lot of attention from you and I think it would be best to give it to them instead of bringing another child into the world at this time, when you may not have the energy for it.
2006-12-17 09:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by Natalie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your fiance that until after you are married and your twins are a bit older it is not going to happen. Maybe when your twins are at least five and then your 4 year old will be seven and can help with the baby as well as your teenager....and how is your fiance about helping right now? if he's not good tell him he has to prove he can help with the 4 u have before you have any more.
2006-12-17 09:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by Farah G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last thing you need right now is another baby.You have twins under 2,a 4 yr old and a teenager! Why is your fiance so keen for another baby now,is it a control issue? If you really do want another baby,wait at least till your twins start school. Give yourself a little breathing space!
2006-12-17 09:19:02 · answer #3 · answered by New Boots. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with your fiance about how you feel on having another child. it shouldn't just be YOU taking care of the children, its a team effort, so to speak. he should take some of the responsibility of raising another child as well. make sure HE is willing to use a little "elbow grease" in raising another child, if you chose to get pregnant again. also, If you are having doubts I'd suggest you think it over, and make sure you truly want it. or perhaps it's best to wait a while longer till your youngest children are a little older, and don't need as much of your attention. that way, you can give all of your attention to the baby/babies.
2006-12-17 09:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by tweetybird37406 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is up to you, but it sounds like you`ve answered your own question . 3 little ones is enough. If you still want to consider when they are at school age then maybe, but perhaps your at the stage in your life where you need to decide thats it and grieve that stage of your life, but embrace the next stage. If you love kids so much, focus it on the 4 you already have and if thats not enough, then get a job at a preschool or something when your small ones are older.
2006-12-17 09:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 21:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want more kids now, then don't have more kids now. From the way you worded your question, it seems as though you're the one who is primarily responsible for child care, and plus, you're the one who has to be pregnant and give birth. Since you're going to be doing most of the work with any kids you might have, the final choice here should be yours.
2006-12-17 09:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll deal with it no matter what happens. I say if you want another kid, go for it. At least you have a teenager to help a LITTLE. I realize it will be very little. I can barely get mine to do the dishes. But if you are now is a good time since you won't have as many in diapers.
Good luck.
2006-12-17 09:13:43 · answer #8 · answered by Chula 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get married and if you don't wan to get pregnant how about adopting a baby. After all they need a loving home too. Good Luck
2006-12-17 09:21:14 · answer #9 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your fiance have something against being married. My wife and I have three children and found that we could give each one the right amount of attention. As for your dilemma , my wife says to tell your fiance to carry the pregnancy and let you enjoy yourself.
2006-12-17 09:17:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋