What's the first thing you think of when you hear someone cheated... that it involved sex or just kissing? Is kissing someone in the moment the same as cheating? Is making a big mistake in kissing someone considered a serious enough issue to confess to your marriage mate of 15 years?
2006-12-17 09:06:32 · 12 answers · asked by ezlayedback 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first thing I think of when someone says cheating is sex. I used to think it was any romantic/sexual attention given to someone other than your significant other. However, since I too kissed someone other than my spouse, I have altered my definition to recognize a one time slip up. I know it will never happen again. So why tell and create a huge issue where there really isn't one. If you feel it will happen again, then you need to evaluate your need for this attention from someone other than your spouse. Good luck with your soul searching.
2006-12-17 09:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by j05gemini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That it involved sex. A kiss can lead somewhere if you are not careful. 'Kissing' - passionate, long, short, what exactly?
Big mistake NEVER to be repeated, don't tell and determine what brought you to that point. Work on correcting that issue and any others that you have with your marriage and/or mate.
If not, then you need to determine what you really want to do because once you tell your mate, it cannot be taken back. Forgiven maybe but never forgotten.
2006-12-17 09:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by Margaret K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cheating... if you are not happy, and your mind starts to wonder, do not kiss, do not touch,.. until after you tell your spouse, and the split is in order.. for you to kiss someone else, there is a problem in the marriage.. deal with the marriage first.. then you can move on to another man.
2006-12-17 09:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by tootsie38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me cheating is sex. Kissing is a slip up.
I would probably end up telling because the guilt would eat me alive.
2006-12-17 09:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it went no further than that, just leave it alone. If you're feeling guilty, which you should, there's nothing to be gained by hurting your spouse. Believe me, there is no worse feeling in the world than being confronted by a mate's infidelity.
2006-12-17 10:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somethings are not worth the trouble over and if a one and only time kiss was all it was i would say let it go ... but if it was more then guilt will catch up with you evenually... and yes kissing is considered cheating...
2006-12-17 09:11:39 · answer #6 · answered by JYB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kissing will lead to other things. Stop now if you want to save your marriage.
2006-12-17 10:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating in my opinion is when the trust between you and your spouse is broken. Rule I live by is: If I wouldn't like my wife to do it, I shouldn't do it! Might sound corny, but thanks to it my marriage is stronger now.
2006-12-17 09:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by Archangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck with all that...totally... touching someone inappropriately is cheating...but if you feel as though you'd never do it again,, don't talk your partner... you'll just make them hurt for no reason..if you tell them all that you are doing is transferring your guilt... you should live with for the rest of your life...
2006-12-17 09:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by Traynor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, would you consider it cheating if your spouse did this to you? Would you want your spouse to confess?
2006-12-17 09:18:03 · answer #10 · answered by justwingit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋