How can I cause a miscarriage?

Question

I'm 16 years old, and I know my question sounds sad. My period is late, and I've suspected of being pregnant for a little while now. I'm inbetween jobs. I can't let my family find out about it because the father is from a hispanic country, and they are incredibly racist. I also know that he wouldn't be there to help. I'm extremely scared, and I really don't know what to do.

Answer 1

Oh honey, I am so sorry that you are too scared to tell your parents. But I do understand, when I was 16 I was in the same position. (really I was pregnant by a boy that my parents HATED!) I waited sooo long but finally told my parents. They were disappointed but they loved me and we worked it out.
I ended up having the baby and placing him for adoption, I chose open adoption because it allowed me to chose my baby's family. And I found the BEST family ever, my birth son now lives a happy life with his adoptive parents and I was able to continue my life as a teenager, finish school and I now have a wonderful husband and 3 kids of my own. I won't tell you that it was not hard, it was very hard, I cried and hurt a lot, but it has made me a better person and gave my baby a chance to have life.
For me adoption was the right choice. Just remember, your parents can't help you if they do not know, and this is a child, your child. You have choices, but remember it is YOUR choice.
I wish you the very best of luck, if you believe in God pray, think hard about what you will do. But talk to a grown up, an aunt, your mom, a trusted teacher...someone.
Good Luck......

Answer 2

First of all that is absolutly horrible. Pregnancy is something you should think about before you even have sex.
Second, are you saying that your father is Racist or that people in hispanic countries are racists?! because if it the 2nd of the two then I, coming from a hispanic family find that extreamly rude.

What you should do is wait and find out if you are pregnant, and if your not get yourself on some birth control. If you are then you need to step up and take responsibility for your actions. If you don't want to have the baby then give him/her up for Adoption. Do the right thing.

Answer 3

There is no way of inducing a miscarriage. What you need is some support. I understand that you are scared but you shouldn't do anything that will endanger your health. If you can't turn to family is there an older friend that you have that could help you out? Do you have a good relationship with your doctor? You really need to get some perspective on your situation by first finding out IF you are pregnant then finding out what options are open to you if you are. If you aren't you should get on to some kind of birth control if at all possible.
Please find someone who can support you, this is a huge thing to have to deal with alone. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.

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Answer 4

Honey, I understand that you are scared, and I would have been scared too if this had happened to me at 16, but what you are thinking is not the answer! I know that if you were not so upset you would know that.
You need to sit down and talk to your parents. AND, maybe before you even do that, you might want to do a pregnancy test and find out whether or not you are actually pregnant!!! I know a married lady who has been trying to get pregnant and she was more than two weeks late when she started her period! First of all find out if you are really pregnant! That is the first thing you need to do.
Number 2, IF you are pregnant, you need to sit down and talk to your parents. You are a child in many ways and I am sure that they love you and will try to help you make the right decision.
It is not the end of the world. Many young women have found themselves in your situation and have found ways to continue with their lives in a happy, productive way.
Believe me, killing your baby is not the answer. If you think that you hurt now, you have no idea how much you will hurt if you kill your little baby just because you are scared.
Give it some time. If you really are pregnant talk to your parents. Do not talk to Planned Parenthood. They are the largest providers of abortion in the US. All they care about is getting you to kill your baby. They do not care about you at all. Talk to people that love you.
Feel free to write to me if you would like to. I will write back.
By the way, when I said "people who love you" I meant your family, your Mom and your Dad, the people that YOU love. I did not mean any outside sources that only have some selfish interest in your baby.

Answer 5

do you know how many people in the world that would anything to have a baby...going through a miscarriage is the worst thing ever (I had a miscarriage 3 months ago). I can't believe that would want to end your childs life, why don't you put the baby up for adoption....you made the adult decision to have sex make the adult decision to put the baby up for adoption and give the baby a chance of a good life............

Answer 6

Go to this Web site and type in your zip code to find a Planned Parenthood near you. They can help you. There is nothing you can do to end your own pregnancy. You need to go to Planned Parenthood and get a pregnancy test and discuss your options.

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

Regardless, make sure in the future you take every precaution to prevent an unwanted pregnancy. There are a dozen different forms of reliable birth control and Planned Parenthood can help you get them.

Answer 7

Sweetie, I know you are scared but don't hurt yourself. Go to planned parenthood or go to an adult that you trust like a teacher, aunt or a friend's mother. Your first step is to take a pregnancy test. Then, you need a mentor (the older adult you trust) to help you through this whether you are pregnant or not. They will help you make good decisions that are best for you and the baby.

Answer 8

Don't even try it. Think about it...if you tried and didn't succeed, that baby could be physically, and/or mentally ruined for life. Don't make that baby pay for YOUR mistakes.

You were adult enough to have sex, then be an adult and step up to your responsibilites now. You need to speak to someone (like your family doctor) to decide what steps you need to take to get your life together. I say to see your doc. b/c it sounds as if your father will not be rational at this moment. You need a game plan and you need to think a little more rationally.

This baby didn't ask for this...you did.

Answer 9

Causing a miscarriage can hurt you and the abby badly if you did not actually miscarry.

Do you know what it is like to miscarry? I had a miscarriage and it was something that i didn't want to happen.

I would go for an abortion. Go to http://www.abortion.com and find a clinic near you.

Answer 10

Honey, that's dangerous.

You definitely have to go to a clinic. Someone will have to supervise your taking mifepristone (a medical abortion), or perform a surgical abortion. It's extremely unwise to attempt to induce a miscarriage at home. And if you do, you'd STILL have to go to a clinic to get an ultrasound and make sure everything's gone! If it's not, you'd STILL have to get a surgical abortion!

So, I'm sorry. It's not that simple. Either way you'll still have to go to a clinic to get taken care of, so please just go and be safe to begin with.

Call Planned Parenthood. 1-800-230-PLAN. They'll get you an appointment and help you figure everything out. You need NEED to tell someone about this. A friend, an older cousin, a neighbor's mom. Someone. Because you'll need transportation and care. Also ask about getting on birth control while you're there. They will explain ALL your options and help with whatever you decide.

But honey, if he's not going to be there for you, please dump him. If he's old enough to be having sex, he's old enough to stand by any decision you make. If he'd run off, he doesn't love you, no matter what he says while he's horny.

Good luck. Email me if you get too many negative responses and/or need someone to talk to.

Yeah. The 'people who love you' that Lady Trinity is talking about? They will NOT give you any real info on abortion. They will tell you it's murder and then pressure you into letting an evangelical Christian couple in their program adopt your child. But they will give you NO HELP afterward. If your dad is really going to hurt you, they'll let you live in a 'group home' til the kid's born, then kick you out before you're even healed. They don't 'love you'. They just want the kid, so it can be raised in an evangelical church. If you're going to choose adoption, use a SECULAR adoption agency. PLANNED PARENTHOOD will refer you to one if that's what you choose.