If someone tells you there was something wrong with you, would you like it to be defined and fixable?

Answer 1

If someone tells me that there is something wrong with me, I would prefer it to be incorrect and illusory! I would like them to keep it to themselves! Tee hee! Well, I'm not a fan of criticism. But I'm the first to admit my many flaws (I try to save others the trouble of pointing them out)...

I suppose if it's constructive criticism, or if it's something I really need to know because it's affecting other people then I would want to be told & of course I'd prefer that it's something defined & fixable so that I can actually try to do something about it rather than something nebulous and unfixable, something I'm just stuck with. That would be harsh. I think if it's something the person can't do anything about, you shouldn't be cruel & point it out.

Answer 2

Hi Eror!!!

Of course !!!! And the first thing that I would like to fix is the person that told me!!!

This term is usually used, when the other person don't understand another. Since they are not apt to understand you they are quick and obnoxiously enough to tell you that "SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH YOU" !!! When infact they are the ones that are wrong in NOT PUTTING ENOUGH EFFORTS , to understand you !!!!

This term is also used when some one wants to control some one else. To make you feel and think that is you, the problem. And when you believ that is true they will take advantage of your weakness!!!

Look first of all every body has something going wrong. wether it is in their life's , work, fa, health, relationships, school, etc.

NO ONE IS PERFECT!!!! So whoever told you, that something is wrong with you, do not really have the time to analize you, because they have to start analizing themselves on a 911 fashion !!! Trust me, don;t let no one diminish you by this negative comments. Don't get mad or give much importance to it.
Just ignore them, but put more attention to yourself!!!
If I were you, I would try not to mingle with such negative people that think they are better than every body else!!! Have you heard any positive comments coming from this person???
If you haven't he or she could be suferring from some form of complex.

Sit down with yourself and ask yourself is there is something bothering YOU!!!. Then after pinpointing at what ever it is then, try to help youself or look for professional assitance.

As I told you before everybody has something wrong with them, NOBODY IS PERFECT !!! That's why if you feel withing yourself that you can be a better person, but don't know where to start, counseling will give you some good healthy and professional headstart.
GOOD LUCK, GOD BLESS YOU
MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY NEW YEAR
ALLIV Z

Answer 3

Not necessarily. I have a number of neurological conditions, the most pronounced one of which is prosopagnosia, the inability to recognize people by using the face as the primary recognition clue. I've lived practically my entire life with this, so its certainly very well defined, both in me and within the field of psychology. If somebody were to offer to either "fix it" or "cure it", even though it does bring me a great deal of social difficulty at times, I'm not at all sure I would want them to do so. I might not like the psychological results of having it fixed, and if I don't, there is no guarantee I could return to the way things were before I was "fixed". Like the age old expression goes, "Be careful what you wish for, because it might come true."

Answer 4

I am a naturally introspective person. If someone was to tell me that something was wrong with me, I would not just accept this opinion of myself. I would, however, evaluate whether there was any truth to it. I might ask others that I trust or read up on that particular subject. I would hope above all, that the person would say it to me gently, privately, and with positive intentions, not just out of spite.

Answer 5

Mostly it would be determined by under what circumstances the criticism was given.

If someone comes up to you and says you have to fix this about you, or makes a comment that they dont like this about you, thats alot different then someone whos interacting with you and trying to help you out with genuine constructive criticism.

example.
youre talking to someone and youre in a friendly arguement. an onlooker sees you are talking over someone and comes to you and says its not polite to talk over someone.

I say mind your own business.

However if in the same situation, the person you are argueing with says hey can I finish, its not polite to cut someone off, well then I say I would listen to that more than I would someone not included in an a and b conversation.

You have to learn to treat girls better
spoken by someone Im not talking about girls too....it wouldnt have the same impact as if I was inside a conversation with someone and they told me hearing why I act the way I do, then I would be more responsive to criticism.

I think someone said something to you, about how they feel they should improve you. We all learn at our own pace, and people are always trying to change other people. I say you have a brain to take into consideration anything someone tells you. If it makes sense, well cant argue with it.

If its out of line tell that person to mind their own business.
Its far easier to criticize than it is to accept.

If youre ready to fix it youll ask for them to elaborate. But now say the criticism is from one of those self rightcheous people then I wouldnt care too much because Ill change at my own pace, not for other peoples.

But then again -- it all depends on what the criticism is.
youve got to stop smoking, stop fighting, stop borrowing money without paying it back.
Well thats aot different than alot of other criticisms isnt it?

Use your brain and common sense wil guide you

Answer 6

nothing is wrong with anyone.
there are just things that socioty has deemed socially acceptable.
these things have been judged this way because of how we feel.

as to the defined/fixable part... who cares. worrying about things never helps. maybe somebody is not ready to progress past whatever causes or is the problem. i refuse to "fix" anything conciously.

sorry i cant type or spell well.

Answer 7

First I'd want to know what gives that person the creditials to tell me something is wrong with me.

But yes- if something is wrong with me, I'd always perfer is to be something I could work on and overcome.

Answer 8

Though it would be an opportunity for personal introspection and improvement, if I didn't believe them it would simply be an incorrect assumption about me in my opinion.

Answer 9

Absolutely. If it's a "real" problem, they by all means TELL ME and then I can take steps to FIX IT.

Answer 10

My attitude is, tell me so I can rectify it so I won't offend someone and/or be embarrassed a second time...