Does any one else feel like to many couples give up on marriage to quickly?

Question

I am so saddend to see all the couples that just can't seem to figure it out and give up so easly. Please we all have problems from time to time. While some of us choose to work on the problems so we can be happy others just choose to give up. I'm not saying there aren't good reasons for devorce, but in to many instances it's just to easy to say I'm soory I can't do this it's to much work. Then they give up. Why do people find it so easy to hurt each other then try and love each other?

Answer 1

Yes, they often do only to have regrets for the rest of their lives. Marriage requires more than simply acquiring good finances, good sex, a nice home, and other contemporary ideals.

It requires work. Specifically, at maintaining a real and intimate relationship between husband and wife. In my view, a married couple ideally should consider each other to be best friends, and if not be working towards achieving that goal. However, more often than not, it becomes an unrealistic undertaking that ends because of selfish and unrealistic goals as well as unrealistic expectations of one another. Many times, one or both partners, get out of one marriage and right back into another marriage and haven't learned anything and are simply divorced again after they find themselves in the same hopeless situation all over again.

It would save their children, families, friends, and themselves, allot of heartache, misery, and financial trouble, if they tried harder to work on issues realistically, and took this sacred vow more seriously, but then that's the throw away society in which we live in.....

Answer 2

I don't think this generation that are out there worked as hard as our mothers and fathers generation....People aren't taking their vows "for better or for worse" seriously because the first thing that goes wrong, people leave and become seperated or divorced...

I think the failure in a marriage is "COMMUNICATION & LIVING WITHOUT GOD" as I have learned on this website and looking at some of my friends who are now divorced....

I had some friends who were together for 8 years and then got married and divorced less than a year....Go figure....

I also know that there are two many married couples are cheating, inviting other couples into their bedroom and have open marriages where they can have someone else they see....

In the past generations it was not that simple and that would never happen as our mothers and fathers ignored a lot of things and took care of what was needed...

I wish we can learn for a generation who have been married 50 + years...

Answer 3

I've been married a yr 1/2 and its been some tough times but we find a way 2 get ova it.My cousin just been married 9 mths and have left her home several times and now shes back Ive told her shes grown and keep her mother and brother out of her business and get there own place,but the way i see it now its to much materialistic going on trying to keep up with the Jones an a lot of women don't what to work and they have bills and children and i think it 2 much on the husband.Me and My husband has worked out that until i finish sch he will work and i will work partime.I chose this because my husband and i r still young and we want to stay happy so we wont go through these problems that why think so many people just give up instead of trying to work it out.We split the bills and i pay my own cell bill and we both have money to save and mess off and take care of our five children this works out so good for us.But i find if u really luv each other u will find ways to stay happy.

Answer 4

People are idiots. Oh, and spoiled brats. I get angry about the whole thing...people who are married at 21 to someone they just met six months ago because they want the party, they want the big, expensive day and they can't wait it out. Then the fun ends and what's next? Then they have to figure life out. And they can't even figure out how to pay their bills or share household chores. But it's okay, because if he pisses me off too much I'll just get a divorce and marry the guy I'm sleeping with at work. And then there are so many people left who are not married at 27 because they're waiting for the right time and waiting to save the money so the whole thing will truly be special, and they get to hear "so when are YOU getting married?" from all these terrible couples. Argh. It's maddening.

Answer 5

My husband and I are having our 33rd anniversary in January and I am very proud of what we have in our marriage. It wasn't always perfect but we always worked through the problems and never thought about a divorce. Too many couples nowadays just give up instead of working out the problems. The longer we are married, there is a lot of pleasure and happiness that grows in your marriage as the years go by. Honesty and communication are the most important things to abide by. My husband is my friend and husband. I thank God for a blessed marriage.

Answer 6

I think it boils down to immaturity. Many people get married with the thought that "Hey, if it doesn't work out then we'll just get divorced". We live in a world where we want things to be quick, easy and give us the most pleasure. As soon as something turns difficult and the honeymoon is over, they reach for the divorce papers. It really destroys families. My parents divorced when I was 8 years old, so I speak from experience.

Answer 7

"For better or worse" phrase just doesn't mean anything to these people of divorce. I think it all stems from the instant gratification issues in the country. Nobody is interested in the long term. This stands true for companies people work for, condo associations, marriges and everything. Sure it is easier to throw in the towel and go back to being selfish than it is to make the effort to change the situation. Where would we be now if somebody didn't choose to make the effort to change things? Would we still be paying English taxes for tea?

Answer 8

Well like so many other things in life, Relationships are not for everyone. Most of us look for love in all the wrong places or think what we are feeling is love when for the most part is lust. What saddens me is when we have children and forget that they come first whether are relationships work or not. I grew up in a battered home for many years, And I am fully aware that a few of my old relationships had no chance of working because I had not learned or should I say "I did not have the necessary tools needed to succeed and grow in those relationships". Lets face it, We all want to be loved, But if we are not ready its just not going to work...

Answer 9

Wow What a Great Question!!
Your are so right, way to many couples give up, its just so easy these days..If they spent time making there marriage work, working thru there problems, Instead of just giving up, Can you imagine how many marriages would be saved?
Merry Christmas!

Answer 10

that is very common these days and what people believe isthat love just goes away and it doesnt love is an everlasting thing and people dont realize they might just be going threw a hard time but if they try and work things out that love they had for each other will come back to me i see it as i dont believe in divorce i love my husband very much and will always love him no matter what we go threw he is my soul mate and i want to see are grandchildern together the world has just givin up on love and faith