what is the relationship between romance and sex .
2006-12-17 08:40:06 · 5 answers · asked by UnderstandingLife 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Thank you for this kind question! :)
I think your question is a good start... because by asking about how women would like to be treated, you are showing you care, and I think that is what romance is... To show your lady you really care, by paying attention to her, by thinking about what she might like...
...small things, like
- affectionately squeezing her hand from time to time instead of just holding it and forgetting it is there
- giving her warm smiles directly from your heart
- listening to what she says, with empathy, saying things that make her feel you understand her, or at least that you want to understand her, making her feel that her feelings are important to you
- being interested in and remembering what she says and what she likes
- opening doors for her, also car doors
- giving her flowers/roses for no particular reason, it's the feeling you give them with that really counts, it should be just because she is more beautiful to you than all the flowers in the world, and because of this, one single flower is just as great to get as a whole bunch...
- noticing when she needs something and getting it for her...
- making jokes to cheer her up
- telling her over and over how beautiful she is to you
- hugging her
- being proud to have her walk at your side
...
I could go on for a long time... I think the essence of it all is making her feel special by the way you treat her. Making her feel that she is the most important person to you in your life, making her feel you really respect her and care for her, expressing your love all the time in the way you treat her.
The relationship between romance and sex...
For me, the two are very much related. Because as a woman, I need to "open up" to make love... and to physically open up for me requires that I emotionally open up first. And I emotionally open up when I feel respected and safe and really really special and beautiful and cared for. Then I can give up all my defenses and surrender completely, which of course makes the sex most fulfilling.
I think it is always a good idea to make sure you hug your lady, hold her tight, make her feel safe and loved, a lot anyway, but especially before going about making love to her.
2006-12-17 12:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by charmme 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe this depends on the woman, her wants and desires. Every woman will want something different. The things that every woman, and every human, wants the most, tho, is love kindness, respect, open communication, and to see that you are truly paying attention to them and no one else. We DON'T want to be controlled over everything we say or do, and we don't want to be treated like children. We want and need to be treated like the women we are.
As for romance, I can suggest a couple of awesome books. Get them, read them, follow the things you think your partner will like or love and the ones that you know you can do.
As for the relation between romance and sex, there is a big relation. IF a man is respectufl of us, does nice things for us during the day (doesn't have to cost anything, just do things for us around the house, pamper us, etc), then we are more receptive in bed. Women need to feel loved during the day to give themselves in bed. Men give in bed to feel needed and loved. Women want to be cherished at all times, basically put on a pedestal.
Anyway, the books are: 1001 ways to be romantic, and 1001 more ways to be romantic. So, there are at least 2002 ways for you to be romantic with a woman. If you run out of ideas with using all of those, then something must be wrong. lol
2006-12-17 16:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is the ultimate goal of romance.
As far as what romance is, it can be different things to different people.
Rather than fill the page with an article, I invite you and others to use the link http://www.buddyandoscars.com/intimate_nights.htm and read the article entitled 'Romantic Evenings & Getaways'
A reprint of the article is also available at http://blogme-dave.blogspot.com
2006-12-17 09:04:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me romance is tenderness.Simply when he is tender with me,when he acts like a real gentleman and when he says ''I love you!''
There is no relationship between romance and sex.Sometimes sex can happen and without the romance part.All depends on the persons.For me romance is more worth than sex!
2006-12-17 08:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could go on and on about this...but instead I advise you to check out the book "For Men Only". It is written based on a survey of average American women. My husband was assigned that book for our marriage counseling. I think it will be helpful.
2006-12-17 09:08:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋