i dont know what to do im all alone with no boyfriend or hunband and im only 23 what should i do!!!
help!!!!!!!!!
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2006-12-17 08:16:05 · 12 answers · asked by =X 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Honey, take a deep breath and relax.
Do you have any sort of support network? Mum & Dad, aunts & uncles, siblings, cousins, friends? They say it takes a village to raise a child, and this sort of extended family and friends is the modern equivalent of a village. Are you at the stage of ante-natal (pre-natal) classes yet? A whole bunch of women who will be going through the same child-raising issues as you, with whom you can share experiences and tips. I found that a weekly "coffee group", set up through New Zealand's specialist mother/baby health organization Plunket, was great support for me, as I live 100 miles from my parents, and eventually split from my partner when our daughter was 4 (should've done it when she was 6 weeks!).
Yes, solo parenthood is hard, but it's not impossible. Spend this time (before baby arrives) planning. Will you be working? How soon? Check out child-care options, collect their brochures, talk to staff and watch the kids to see if this place is right for you.
Check for financial support - you will probably need some level of welfare, even if you're working, and there may be subsidies available to you. If you decide to be a full-time Mum, remember, this is a decision you've made based on your child's needs - don't feel you need to apologize, as motherhood is the most important job around. Most importantly, plan how you're going to raise your child. If there's one piece of advice I would give anyone, it's "Don't shout at your child." This is really hard to remember, especially if you're 'It' where authority is concerned, but believe me, once you start, you'll never stop - I wish I'd never started.
Focus on YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILD, not on the jerk who's walked out on you both. If you let him influence your thinking at all, he's continuing to win. My mother tells me that the best way I can look after my daughter is to look after myself, and it's true!
Just remember, you're not alone, and you're not the only one in the world in your position, and you're not even the only one who looks at all the others coping so well (hah!) and wonders why you don't seem to cope. I'll email you - email me any time you need, for support, advice, whatever (even tips of your own!). Just remember the time difference - here in NZ, we're currently 18 hours ahead of New York, 21 ahead of LA.
Kia ora (be healthy)
Kia kaha (be strong)
Kia manawanui (be of good heart)
2006-12-17 08:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by ~jve~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
attempt to return to a compromise, such as you will initiate attempting next 365 days...that way it may be on the part of two years by ability of the time the baby have been given right here. take a seat and take a sturdy verify out the funds and coach him the procedures you will desire to have the money for it interior the subsequent 365 days or so. additionally, you don't be attentive to how long it is going to take you to get pregnant. i'm specific you have extra that as much as him already. As a guy, I would desire to assert do no longer push for the reason which you do no longer % it to tension you dating, so attempt to be extra logical approximately it and are available to a compromise. i'm specific there's somewhat worry of fatherhood there on his section. this is a huge accountability for a guy to shield his relatives. I wish you 2 the wonderful and need you will get your wish. BTW, my sister began a relatives at 36 and he or she has enjoyed each minute of having her women. 33 is youthful!
2016-12-11 11:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go to your family, friends and a good divorce lawyer. Get child support started the minute that child is born! Your husband leaving probably means in the long run, you will be better off without him! Please make sure you get child support established as soon as the baby is born though. You will need it! Good luck and i hope everything works out.
2006-12-17 08:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As someone who ended up having a baby on their own- my divorce was finalised the same day that my daughter was born- all I can tell you is that it isn't easy, but for me she is worth it- though I couldn't have made it through the last year without the support of my family- don't be afraid to ask for help-
2006-12-17 08:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact Planned Parenthood. You should also look into hiring a doula (sp).
2006-12-17 08:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by Renee C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its ok hon, Your husband is a loser for walking out on you and his child. Please go to your family or even his family if your close with them. I'm sure they will be there for you! Take care!!
2006-12-17 08:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by 05&08 Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you husband is a looser for leaving you
2nd, go back to your family, they will always help you out
2006-12-17 08:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by CB 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you have a friend go to her. as her if she will help you. or go to your mother. it is scary being a lone but it will feel better if a friend or someone close is with you
2006-12-17 08:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go with a fmaily or friend.
2006-12-17 08:28:27 · answer #9 · answered by poisonette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry email to abbynirvana13@yahoo.com
2006-12-17 08:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋