My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year over the summer we had broken up, over the summer she had been seeing someone else, however I was always around and we were very close, that made me want to wait for her. So as I knew we got back together, she had said she missed me very much. Everything was going great until three weeks ago when we would get into stupid, pointless arguements. She has even bursted out in anger saying she hates me, she cannot stand me, I drive her up the wall and even sometimes Im just not her type. She also says I am stupid, she just gets into these huge fits of anger suddenly. I love her very much and I know for a fact she loves me, despite what she says because there are times shes all over me. However recently not so much I would really want this to work out with her.
I also have to mention she has Bi Polar Disorder and is scared to go on any medication for it. I would really like help and tips on how I can make this work with her.
2006-12-17 08:12:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a woman who is bi-polar, let me explain how difficult it is living with this disorder. It is very nearly crippling to your emotional and social life. The ONLY way to treat it is with medicaiton and counsiling. Please do not leave her when she needs you the most. If your relationship fails, let it be her that leaves but try your best to remain supportive of her. Encourage her to seek treatment. If she doesn't think she can afford it, there are many FREE or INCOME BASED clinics in every area.
It sounds like to me she is experiencing a bipolar episode. The angry outbursts are symptoms of both manic and depressive phases. She doesn't hate you. She loves you. She is just so emotionally confused right now. Do your best to go through this with her. Attend counsiling sessions if she asks you to. Encourage her to educate herself about her disorder and encourage her family to help. There are a lot of support groups out there for Biplar individuals.
Whatever you do, don't label her as Bipolar. Bipolar is not who your girlfriend is. Your girlfriend is the woman you love and these outbursts are a disorder that can be corrected with medication or counsiling in some cases.
My husband and I have had some very rough times with my disorder. If you would like some bipolar information and/or coping resources or the location of some support groups, e-mail me: alfeebester@yahoo.com. I'd be more than happy to help.
2006-12-17 08:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by alfeebester 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Follow the advice of the poster above. If there is no doubt about your love for each other, stick with her. She's pushing you away in anger because she doesn't want to put you through this. It's hell enough to deal with it alone. But she does need help and the treatment will make a tremendous difference. See if you can get her to try it for a period of time after which she can decide to stay on them or not. But she has to give the meds a try for her own sake.
2006-12-17 08:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a tough road ahead of you if she does not get on meds. There will be constant ups and downs, making life for you very stressful. I don't see why she would be afraid of getting on medication. They help even out mood swings, and make one more emotionally stable. Try doing some research about bipolar disorder.
My husband is bipolar mixed, and it is only this past year he has been on meds. I wish he was diagnosed earlier in our marraige...it would have saved us countless fights, and financial heartaches.
2006-12-17 09:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is her responsibility to stay on her meds. Even with the meds, it sounds like this is more of a battle royal, than a good relationship. why should you have to wait while she is cheating. bi-polor is not a excuse to cheat or use it to have their way, which is exactly what she is doing. Get a girl that respects you.
2006-12-17 08:18:26 · answer #4 · answered by m c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a serious issue, and there may be only one solution. You may have to tell her how you feel about her, and how much you love her, offer her advice and console her, and then you have to let her resolve this for herself. You can't get caught up in this sticky mess, which will eventually wreck you emotionally. Keep your options open and don't be afraid to date around.
2006-12-17 08:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by granddana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You deserve to be treated with respect. Move on & find someone who really cares about You. When you are loved by someone, they do not say these hurtful things to you. You need to love yourself more than you love her, & get out.
2006-12-17 09:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that, run like hell. It won't work and eventually you will be as unstable as she is. Trust me, run.
2006-12-17 08:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by Dane 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋