The reason she's given for refusing it is that it'll cause an argument with her boyfriend. I've given her presents before and she's always accepted them. I know that he's said something to cause her change of heart but i don't know what. This guy has always been jealous of our friendship. He's always seen it as me against him for this woman's affections. This is another attempt on his part to mark his territory. I fully understand my friend's reasons for declining the gift.
She has also accused me of pushing the boundaries of our friendship which i admit has been true in the past. But i have no ulterior motives with regards to this gift. I just wanted her to have a nice present from me. The reason i'm so bothered by this is that the gift is unique and therefore very difficult to exhange. I don't want to be stuck with a present that i've no use for. I can't give it to someone else because i bought it especially for her. Short of giving it to them as a couple i don't know what to do.
2006-12-17 08:03:31 · 10 answers · asked by David S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Let's think about this for a minute. The worst thing you can do with any gift is to insist. Gifts are supposed to be spontaneous and open and freely given. The answer is for you to keep that gift for the time being. Keep it with yourself, calm down, and do not make tension or ugly ripples at Christmastime. You will still be you, and she will still be who she is. Your kind gift will still be available if anything should change. What might be happening, here, is that you are finding out you may have to step back from her a little. It is not necessary to do anything which could be taken as unpleasant, that would further alienate you from her. Hold your ground by holding on to your gift for the time being, and I guarantee you will know the right way to proceed right after Christmas. The most important thing, however, is not to insist on anything. Just be gracious and her good friend, as always, and watch what happens. If you conduct yourself like a gentleman, this will not go unnoticed. Women pick up on things you would not imagine, including you. Be positive about this.
2006-12-17 08:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wrong if you think you want the attention of a guy who has a girlfriend and tells his friends not to tell his girlfriends about "the kissing". I would say: you have expressed your interest in him clearly. He knows you like him. Guys like a challenge, they like to hunt and catch their prey so don't just throw yourself at him. He knows you like him so be cool and see what he wants to do. If he wants to keep his girlfriend and mess your feelings or your stuff on the side, DON'T DO IT. You deserve better and you'll just be getting played and used. If he does like you, he'll request a break or some space from his relationship with gf and pursue you on the up & up.
2016-05-23 02:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was right to decline it if she does not have any feelings toward you beyond friendship. You seem to be in love with this girl but are not admitting it to yourself. If my wife came home with a gift from a man yes it would be me marking my territory. A relationship of boyfriend and girlfriend inherently alludes to monogamy. I can guarantee you that if a girl gave your friend's boyfriend a personal gift she would be livid.
2006-12-17 08:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by Little anionyx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very sweet guy. I guess you have to put it away since it could cause stress. Save it for the future when perhaps she's not w/her boyfriend anymore or maybe he will become less controlling and she'll feel like accepting it at a future date.
2006-12-17 08:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut your losses and only buy gift's for friends that are unattached, you are entering another person's territory why would anyone want another man giving his girlfriend a present , you will have to find your own 'girl'. no you cannot make her change her mind , dont even try .
2006-12-17 08:28:03 · answer #5 · answered by MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
admit it you want to shag her. leave her alone she is not going to do the dirt for you. so except it move on. men and women cant be friends. and for those women who doubt me. how many man friends have not maid a pass. any way your present was prob to good and was saying lets get it on. so no wonder. you should of got her something small that says friend not lets get it on
2006-12-17 08:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by brioduinn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
without knowing what it is its hard t tell. i find it hard to see why she would refuse it thats very strange. i have a very close guy freind but my bf doesnt mind. what do you mean by you have pushed the boundries? would be easier to understand maybe if we knew.maybe best to forget it for now if its straining things. maybe ebay or exchange for the gift or save it for her birthday:D
2006-12-17 08:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by Helen E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well give the present to them as a couple then.....at least she still gets the present and you know that its for her so deep down so does she.
merry christmas
2006-12-17 08:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by Byte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect her opinion, and put it away until her birthday.
2006-12-17 08:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
f*k her leave her alone and get a new friend wish i had a friend like u
2006-12-17 08:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋