What if he treats her (and his sister) great, and he treats you (and the g/friend before you too) like total dog meat? He is condesending, dissrespectful, rude, angry and verbally abusive, I don't get it. And the worst part is, that he says he is not!
Almost like he is in denial or somthing!
PJ
2006-12-17 07:29:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tape record or video him without him knowing then show him. If you're close to the women in his family talk to them, maybe he saw some stuff growing up, maybe his dad treated his mom that way...most times when people are verbally abusive they don't realize it, it's just second nature...good luck
2006-12-17 07:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, why are you still with him? Wait until after the holidays and dump him. Let him treat someone else like dirt. My son is the same way and he was not raised that way. He is rude to everybody he talks to. They are wrong, he is always right. He walks around talking about how tall he is and how much muscle he is developing. Very condescinding, very rude. People like that are not worth the trouble they cause. Dump him while there is still time, hopefully before kids get involved.
2006-12-17 08:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd dump him like a hot potato. I went with someone like this: Momma's boy. No woman on the earth could hold a candle to his Mommy or his older sister. Mommy was what you'd expect:doting, no woman ever good enough for her little Joey, he could do no wrong-meanwhile, he's a raging alcoholic who can't hold down a job, beat the crap out of his wife (poor thing) of 10 years who supported him and put up with his beatings, he got barred legally from his son in that marriage and since then, Mommy has been on a Life Mission to find him another poor dodo to finance him because his parents really don't want to afford him anymore. The whole scene is so sickening I am getting mad just remembering it all (I was one of the idiots who got involved with him). He used to get very drunk and say he wanted to bang his Mother-she was his sexual ideal.Oh I could go on and on but I won't. Just beware of this sick junk!!I'll just finish it up with this: he's in jail a while ago and we were together. He and his parents decided it would be financially beneficial to move me into his apartment while he was away doing his time so I could pay the bills (I worked). I did this. One morning, he was out on Work Release and he and his Mommy pulled up and came in and threw me out because he was convinced I was entertaining other guys while he was not there. I was not. Once they were sure of that (I had to go to a shelter), they tried to get me to go back. I never did.
2006-12-17 07:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha that's a total misconception. Who you really should be paying attention to, is your man's FATHER. How does the father treat the mother and sister? Your man will mirror how his father treats woman...period. Judging from what you said, his father probably treated the mother and sister badly and therefore your man feels this overwhelming need to protect and coddle them to make up for his fathers bad treatment. Unfortunately he does not do the same for girlfriends. Run away!
2006-12-17 07:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my husband treats his mom gently with respect, but later compares notes with me on her crazy behavior (which most of the time I have to agree). If you feel this guy is rude, disrespectful and condescending to you than HE IS. Tell him you're not going to stand for it any more. You can hope for the best but I'd prepare yourself for the worst. Leave him. If you have kids you don't want them to follow his example and they will!
2006-12-17 07:53:31 · answer #5 · answered by CA DIVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like he is taking his frustrations out on the girlfriends because he can't get away with it at home. If he has no more respect for you(or whomever he is dating) dump him. Why would you want to be treated like crap when there are decent guys out there. KEEP LOOKING!
2006-12-17 07:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is an untrue theory. they say you can tell by the way he treats a waitress too, but sure enough its a lie.
after the romance phase is over (whenever that he is sure he got you) he will change... probably for the worst.
good luck!
2006-12-17 07:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better still - watch how his 'father figure' (dad or step-dad whoever is living in the house with them) treats the mom. That is how he learned to treat his lady.
2006-12-17 07:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by cherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is someone who has hurt him really bad and you are getting the backlash of it...Don't waist your time in an unhappy situation as life is too short now and you need to find happiness and peace....
Good Luck
2006-12-17 10:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still with him? If he treats you with total lack of respect, then you should respect yourself enough to move on away far away from him. God bless****
2006-12-17 07:46:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋