I like a guy and he seems to like me. But I just got out of a divorce, so I cannot date or find out if he likes me. Also, if he doesn't say anything does it mean he's just checking me out and not serious?
2006-12-17 07:28:39 · 27 answers · asked by crazyloonynice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No time limit. Depends if you have kids to me. If you do I think you should all take some time to adjust for the kids. If you are single without kids go have fun! I wouldn't rush into marriage HA
2006-12-17 07:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello!
There's no set timeline for when you should start dating again. What you need to do is to decide if you're emotionally ready. Sometimes it's good to just take a bit of time for yourself. If your divorce left you emotionally weak, you should build yourself back up first. If your divorce was a long time coming and you're emotionally unattached, then go ahead and start dating.
My concern is that you felt the need to ask this question. Are you guilty about dating so soon? If there's something stopping you, you might want to wait a bit. It could be hell on a relationship to be constantly feeling guilty or bad about dating. It could also harm the new boyfriend.
As for what it means, it's different with every guy. I might suggest being up front or playful and saying something like "I'm glad I got a divorce so I can go after men like you." See how he reacts.
Good luck -- you'll be fine!
2006-12-17 08:43:22 · answer #2 · answered by Natt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the way i see it is that it's a done deal after divorce.You meet someone new, and if you find them interesting, you go and try it out with them. Unless you need time to recover emotionally and if you don't then there shouldn't be any restriction to when you should date again. You had a divorce for a reason; something must have not worked out. Don't sit around and try to ponder on what went wrong. Go and start start new again. If he doesn't say anything, he might be thinking the same as you. He's probably thinking that you just got out of a divorce and might not want to get into anything right now. Try and talk to him about it. Being straight forward is better then beating around the bush. And sending mixed messages will only torture you both. Good luck
2006-12-17 07:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its up to you when to date.
2006-12-17 07:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Would be good to get out and meet more people, and if dates are offered, accept. But you'll know yourself when you are ready. Don't go on dates just because other people tell you. Only you know how you feel. Keep it casual. I waited more than 5 years and the first guy I dated (met on internet) only wanted ..... something more physical. Put me right off. But you might be luckier and meet nicer guys, especially if you meet them in more natural surroundings - like as part of a group or club you belong to, or introduced by someone else. All your friends and workmates will have brothers, cousins, friends ...... Good luck
2016-03-13 07:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you just got out of a divorce which is not good an you need some one to hang out with weather the guy is serious or not an there is nothing wrong with going on a date even a couple of hours after you have divorced AS LONG AS YOU ARE ABLE TO FIND YOUR SELF EMOTIONLY able jump right in an dont look back is what i say never regret what you do always regret what you didnt!!!
2006-12-17 07:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by none of your biz. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say if the divorce decree is final, enjoy. Don't wait to start a new life. Don't continue to be a victim of your old one.
As to the new guy, he may not know your current status, and is keeping his distance until he does. Also beware of rebounding after your divorce. Start a new life, but keep your head about you.
2006-12-17 07:36:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you have healed emotionally and prepared to get back out there.....You need to make sure you have no hang ups and take your previous relationship as an experience and don't think that the next man you date will do the same to you.....
Don't start before you emotionally heal and all the hurt and love is gone because you will end up heartbreak after another...
Good Luck
2006-12-17 10:47:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a divorce I don't think there is a socially acceptable time that you should not date. Date when you feel ready....
2006-12-17 07:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is really no legal time frame. Although I advise one to make sure that their heart and mind are free that what went on in that failed relationship will not play a part in a future one. I got divorced in 1987, I did not date for I believe it was four years afterwards, but that was my choice.
2006-12-17 08:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋