My boyfriend and I get along well, but we seem to have nothing in common. We both love eachother very much, but I think it is becoming an issue. He likes music and cars and I like movies and video games. We have nothing to talk about. Should I throw in the towel or is it a relationship that can last?
2006-12-17 07:04:26 · 13 answers · asked by TheEverdayGay.com 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You can try to compromise. Do things like have him make you a custom mix of some of his favorite music. You listen to it and give him an idea of what you did/didn't like about it. You get him to watch some of your favorite movies with you. Try to learn why each appreciates what he does, and see if you can't find some common areas of interest there.
When my husband and I started dating, he was a computer geek and I was a bookworm. Over the years he got me interested in computers enough that I work in the field, and I got him interested in books enough that we're out of bookshelf space :-) It's about learning to appreciate things that are important to the other and being open to trying new things.
Good luck!
2006-12-17 08:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by Rose D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should call it quits just like that. In relationships I think it is important that people in a relationship have room to be themself. There also has to be something that you both find interesting. People in a relationship don't have to like all of the same things, in fact I think they should have at least some different interests otherwise it makes it too easy for people to lose their individuality in a relationship. If there is love there, then you shouldn't just give up...you should try finding other things that maybe you two have in common. It's important to love and share things as a couple, but it is equally important to share and love things individually. Not liking all the same things doesn't have to break a relationship in where there is love.
2006-12-17 09:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by Ev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you love each other and that's great. OK so you like different things but there are other things to talk about like how your or his day was or is going. just because you don't have anything in common that's no reason to throw in the towel. ask him what he like about you. stuff like that. Try doing something together that has to do with what you both like. like a move with cars or something like that. Well i hope I helped
2006-12-17 07:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by gtmobrat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being different from each other can be a good thing but being too different with nothin in common can lead to problems. but I think it can be something that can be fixed if both are willing to make it work. Maybe you can find a movie that u two both like or you can find some music that both can enjoy and talk about
2006-12-17 07:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by drama dramz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let's see...you have no problems, sex is good, and you wonder if you should give up the relationship????? If people are so ready to leave eachother when the going is good, no wonder we have so many failed relationships! I guess you are just about as dumb as a rock if you consider this good reason to leave someone. Trust me, compatability is highly over rated...95% of a relationship is sex...if it is good there, what else do you have to worry about? Or would you prefer to have lots in common with a boring person so you have all talk and no sex...very smart!!
2006-12-17 08:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wrote a book and it covered that exact point.
Love Hint #180 - Don't worry about compatibility. It is over-rated by dating services and marriage counselors. It is a joke to those of us who are in love. The only time that the famous 29 aspects of compatibility is important to a marriage, is when there is no love in the marriage. Even after the love fades in a marriage; Appreciation, patience, and forgiveness will beat compatibility every time! "Being available" when your wife needs you beats the heck out of compatibility.
Compatibility is not useless; it ranks right up there with room deodorant.
2006-12-17 07:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by MrsOcultyThomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must not care too much if you are wanting to call it quits.
Just try to work it out. There has to be something of interest somewhere. Like...food? Or certain television shows.
That is hard. You don't like music? I am sure there is one musician you both can agree on.
2006-12-17 07:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends I guess. Do you do things together? Are you willing to try each other's activities?
I mean, its good to have things apart from each other. Also mabye its good for you to lean about music and cars, and him to learn about movies and video games.
There are other things to talk about to. Aspirations in life, etc, struggles at work, etc.
2006-12-17 07:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by rostov 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well me and my girlfriend have different likes and dislikes but we respect each others likes. We try to enjoy each others like and spend time doing what we both like.That way we have things to talk about plus there are other things im sure you can talk about.Try to go out and do things you both agree on and then try to learn about what each of you like and then share your stories.I may not enjoy everything she likes but i like listening to her tell me stuff that she likes cause i love her and i like to talk to her no matter what its about , because i know she loves it.And i also make an effort to learn about the stuff that she enjoys.
2006-12-17 13:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by putty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why cant you talk aboutthe soundtracks in movies,and the excitement of cars in video games.
2006-12-17 07:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋