ok i recently got engaged to a 25 year old and my parents know about being engaged but not about his age. they think he's 19 and ill be 18 in 7 months. should i tell them now or after i turn 18 so that they cant brake us apart because ill be 18. i belive that love doesnt have a price tag or an age limit so it doesnt matter to me. but when we get married they'll end up finding out his age. also my mother and i were talking and i asked what she would do if i wanted to date someone who was in their 20's and she said it depends on what the age is and i said between like 20 and 26 and she said no as long as i knew what would happen if we had sex (because he could go to jail for segetory rape or something like that) anyways what im asking is: 1.Do you guys belive that age is nothing but a number and 2.Should i tell her now or after i turn 18 so that she cant tear us apart,because we plan on living together and having kids <<<(after we get married of course)
2006-12-17 07:04:24 · 16 answers · asked by kendi kenders 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
UGH!!! you just proved your immaturity to your parents. You lied. A truly mature woman would have been upfront and faced the consequences of her actions. EVEN after you turn 18 your parents can get him for statutory rape. YOU got everyone in a mess. He is a fool for messing with someone so young as to risk his freedom. I know of a couple who liked each other but didn't associate in any form other then hi, hello, etc until they were both legal. Hopefully you are not in a state or country that looks on this badly..... Good Luck
As bad as you may think my answer is most parents of teens will feel the same way unless they are VERY liberal and if they are liberal they wouldn't of had to be lied to in the first place. I just hope BF has bond money or at least you are not in US northern states. My mom would have tried to kill that man. And I'm about the same about mine. My first question to him would be what you see in a teen you can't find in a woman of your own age? If you can be honest with me I will be able to look at your as more of an adult even if I still don't like it. It would have given me something positive to look at. Anyway, either way it goes I hope it works out for you.
2006-12-17 07:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by dnisey64 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i was 16 and my man was 23 when we started going out and we r still together 18 years later....the difference is I live in the UK and the law here is different.
if u came clean just now do u think ur parents would really try and split up the relationship? if the answer is yes, then keep quiet until ur 18 and then explain why u didn't say anything before. if they r angry then all u can do is ride it out until they calm down, and they will calm down eventually. all u can do is prove ur committed to one another, but please take it one step at a time. although i love my man very much - looking back i know there were things i missed out on because of the age difference - more so in the first 2-3 years of our relationship. the older u both get the less the age gap matters (if that makes any sense).
i hope it all works out for u. good luck :)
2006-12-17 07:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by missilibi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it bad? Being in love with the guy isn't so bad, but lying about his age???? It makes me wonder if you are really old enough and mature enough to be thinking about getting married if you can't be honest about him to your parents. If your parents love you then they will support your decision, although they may make you take a good long hard look at what you are doing first. If they do... don't freak out, they are doing what is best for you! A friend of mine at 19 married a 40 year old, that was 25 years ago and they are still really happy, its more important that he's the right guy, who will love and care for you for the long term that how old he is. But a word of advice... give your parents a chance, make sure things get off on the RIGHT foot from the start. If its too hard to do, show your mum this questiona nd then tell her it was you.... do it now!
2006-12-17 07:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by askauntkt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you in such a hurry to get married? Why don't you get a life first. You are only 18! Why don't you focus on yourself and figure out what you want to do with your life, get an education, get a job, THEN get married. If the same guy is still around when you are 25, then go for it! (Doubtful because he will be 32 by then and you probably will find there is an extreme age/relating difference). Don't do it!
2006-12-17 07:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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I think age matters to an extent.
But tell your mom now, or tell your mom later. What difference does it REALLY make?
Would you rather them get mad at you for not lying (omission is lying), or for dating a 25 year old?
PLUS you will be 18 in 7 months anyway. If you two are REALLY serious, he would wait for you. You said it yourself, they cannot do anything once you are 18.
I say that you should tell them now. My boyfriend hasn't told his parents a few things about my family. It really irks me because I feel like he is ashamed of it. I cannot marry him unless they know.
2006-12-17 07:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is not that big of a thing. BUT WAIT. Why do you want to get married at such a young age? Live life, enjoy yourself. Do you really want to tied down at your young age? By getting married at this youn age you will be giving up a lot of freedoms. Slow down and rethink this out.
2006-12-17 07:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by cm f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this marriage will only last about a couple months(after you've beaten each other to death) you're too young to even fathom what love is and it's Statutory rape, not Segetory, though I've yet to look it up. he should go to jail for dating someone so young. I wouldn't date someone so young because I'd be stealing their youth and growth, that would be too selfish. If I were you, I'd finish High School and go to college. your so-called fiance is probably a loser who's yet to grow up and marrying you will not help him out. I'd tell my mother wether she likes it or not, but do you really think he's going to stick around for long, I really doubt it but hey, that's my two for your two(points)
2006-12-17 07:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by puertorock882003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 00:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i believe that age is nothing but a number. I do think you wait until after your 18th b-day to tell your parents because of the exact same reason you said. GL
2006-12-17 07:14:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should just tell ur parents now....what r they really going to do to split u guys up
plus it is not up to them who u marry
and i dont think that age matters in love as long as its not like 30 yrs or something than that might just be weird
well good luck and have a great wedding!!!!
2006-12-17 07:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by chemhelp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋