A friend of mine came to me for some advice. He was very upset about something that had occurred the night before. Him and his wife had a big fight and he needed to get away for awhile and went to a bar to have a few drinks. Well, he said that after drinking way too much this girl sitting next to him started talking to him. After one thing led to another they ended up kissing which lasted about a minute or so. He told me that nothing else happened and he left shortly after so that things wouldn't get worse than they already did. He asked me if he should tell his wife because he feels so terrible about the whole thing and is really upset. Him and his wife have been married for many years and have kids... and going out to bars and kissing girls isn't something he does. So I told him that if that's all that happened to just put it behind him and move on. In my opinion, bringing heartache to a marriage over a little kissing isn't worth mentioning. Was that good advice?
2006-12-17 07:00:32 · 10 answers · asked by ezlayedback 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, I think it was very good advice. Did you also tell him to avoid situations like this in the future! Next time, the kissing could be just the beginning. I pray that noone who knows him or his wife was a witness to the "kiss".
Your advice was right on the money, and it would only bring heartache to a his marriage. So, wise! You done great, so quit second quessing yourself. You were a true blue friend, and he's lucky to have you.
Merry Christmas and God bless everyone...
2006-12-17 11:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are quite a few ways to approach this. Personally, I told my best friend. I went to his house, and told him before hand that there was something I really needed to talk to him about. He got a little worried but I told him not to. I visit him and his parents were leaving, so it was perfect, it was just us. We talked for a bit, then I mentioned the conversation, and he got all worried again. And I beat around the bush... for about three minutes (oh, it's not thaaaaat much of a problem, it isn't that itisn't a problem, but it's personal, but I'm fine and you shouldn't worry, I might have to though. It isn't serious, but it's, well, serious but not grave serious...). My friend was very patient, and then I finally told him. He looked at me and I think he was waiting for something else. His face didn't change or anything, it wasn't like, I knew it all along, or I can't believe it... he was just, "you know what, I don't really care. It doesn't matter." I felt a load come off my chest but I still held the load on my back for a year and a half, until I came out to my parents. From there, who cares, I'm out now.
2016-05-23 02:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not tell his wife. He needs to go some place else besides a bar. He should not run away from his problems by drinking. He was right to leave and let things cool down.
2006-12-17 07:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by cm f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, good advice, your friend wasn't himself when he behaved that way, however, keep an eye on him, help him and his partner get through, what will be a difficult time.
2006-12-17 07:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by gbgnick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya dun good! And probably saved them both undue heartache.
2006-12-17 07:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you were right in that case.
I hope you also told him that drinking while upset leads to BAD things---and to not do it any more!
2006-12-17 07:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i agree with you on this one. that's what i would tell a friend in that situation.
2006-12-17 07:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by jdchick48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think so no need to hurt her if it was just that
2006-12-17 07:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by teadropsue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it was
2006-12-17 07:06:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i am sure his conscience is enough for him to realize it was stupid!!!
2006-12-17 07:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋