ok i know i love my bf but i fell as if i don't really like him. i would do any thing for this man but he don't want to do the same for me so after time i lost respect for him now all i want to do is treat him like he treats me i resent him for the way i feel. we don't have sex till he wants it even if i try to start it he tells me i am not in the mood but when he wants it he gets it now we had sex 2times last month an i 'm not shore how to take this its been goin on for the last year. also he wont let me have any control over the money. i work 55h a week an i cant even go out or ask for money. if i do he tells me no or ask me 50questions about how i will spend the money . i have kids an i dont want them not to have him around they have lost enough . so please help me what should i do
2006-12-17 06:51:05 · 15 answers · asked by Storm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Love is based on friendship, trust and respect. It sounds as though at least 2 of the 3 are missing from your relationship, so the short answer is No. You may be fond of him, you may feel you need the security his presence provides, you may feel your children need him...but do you love him? You tell us you have no say in either sexual or financial matters. This is not a partnership, my friend. You can tell him that if things don't change, you want out - but don't expect him to change.
2006-12-17 07:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by keepsondancing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you said that you don't want your kids to be without him. But I think the most important thing is for you to be with someone who makes you happy. Your kids deserve a happy mother, don't they? If this guy is not treating you the way you want to be treated, you shouldn't be with him. Believe it or not, there is a man out there that will treat you like a Queen. He will love you for your flaws and all. Don't waste time with someone you doesn't respect you. Even if you love him, you may not love his ways. And honey, you don't have to deal with that. You are a grown woman and you should be able to make grown woman decisions, and that includeds spending your money the way you want.
I know in a relationship there will be times when you both are not in the mood at the same time, but hey, sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. And it seems that you've been doing that. Why should it be any different for him. Sex is so much better when you are sleeping with someone you actually wants to sleep with you. You deserve to be happy. So, be happy girl. Get to know yourself and that way the man of your dreams will find you.
Good luck Girl!!!!!!!!
2006-12-17 06:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Respect.
2016-03-28 22:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know how it is that you believe that you LOVE a man that you don't like or respect. LOVE Is built on respect trust and sacrifice one for the other. people can like their partner without loving them sometimes as time goes on marriage turns into a wonderful friendship but because of health issues the romantic(sex ) part of a relationship becomes less important and the respect and trust and friendship becomes stronger, NEVER have I heard of a successfully relation being built on selfishness , mistrust, and an occasional sexual encounter. Your kids need an example of a healthy relationship between a man and a woman, hopefully a husband and wife, so that they can develop into well rounded, SELF RESPECTING adults. Stop letting this man? walk on you tell him how he makes you feel and level with him about your feelings. If you are not BOTH ready to WORK!!!on a fulfilling relationship then it is time to split. Get to know yourself and like yourself then you can have a rewarding relationship with someone else.
2006-12-17 07:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you answered your own Question,there Is a think called a relationship of convience so you are not alone.
In a relationship you love each other and respect Is love not games,you build In a relationship you dont tear down but build up.
Changes are made too,good changes not changeing for a person but for both partys If you know what I mean.
That Is a relationship and It Is O SO GOOOOOOOd
2006-12-17 06:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but if that likeness is never developed or at least isn't there a majority of the time it is very taxing on your general well-being.
Most-likely, if it keeps up like that, your love may eventually fade or you'll just get tired of it.
So while it is possible, it isn't exactly healthy; and ultimately establishing a good foundation of both would be best.
2006-12-17 06:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't marry him. It doesn't change after the ring. I'm currently contemplating divorce for the same reason. You'll feel so much better, free, if you get rid of him. He'll come after you begging for you to take him back. If you do it will repeat itself again. He is a self-centered man. It's very hard to change a man like that.
2006-12-17 08:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by rowster 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do some traveling, Put them kids in the car payday , cash that check and move on down the road and don't look back just keep traveling.
2006-12-17 06:58:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You must not love yourself very much if you put up with this; this isn't a life, this is an existence.
2006-12-17 06:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Hope and pray and see a marriage counselor. You might go on like that for years...hope it gets better.
2006-12-17 06:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by *) ayla 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋