2006-12-17 06:43:01 · 11 answers · asked by starbucksluvrxoxo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
this happened to me today~
You know what I did? when they start to talk behind your back, they're not considered friends anymore. So, I took sometime off and reflected. Is it my fault? If its not, better ditch those so called 'friends'
2006-12-17 06:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get new friends. If they have the nerve to talk behind your back eventhough they are mad, thats not much of a friend really. True friends won't do that even if they are upset at you.
2006-12-17 06:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been in a similar situation.
Cept. Best I know of. They didn't get mad at me. But there was some mumblings behind my back. I found out from my friend's brother "J" who was not so thrilled with him about that, and about how he was being treated my him.
Anyway. I ended up writing a letter letting my "friend" know I was sick and tired of him talking bout me and lying to me.
Well. "J's" bro. (My x friend) got the letter and guess he couldn't understand why I was so pissed at him.
Ultimately cost me 2 friendships. 1 with "J's" bro and 1 with "J's" brother's ex wife. (She wasn't aloud to talk to me before I wrote the letter.) Sad to say. I still haven't heard from him or her since the letter. I wrote in the bottom of the letter and I quote....
"So. You can live your life with your new friends.
But live it without me. So long as there is a need to hide the truth, and other **** that has to do with me, from me..... I don't need that kind of bull."
Apparently my x-friend has a problem reading crap.
I guess it is ultimately up to you.
Confront them. Tell them that "If you have something nasty to say about me. Grow some Phuckin' Balls and say it. Otherwise. Quit mouthing off about me behind my back"
You can make new friends with others if you have to.
So. It's up to you man.
2006-12-17 07:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by Boon Goonie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people does that. I find myself talking about the negative factors of my associates also when aggressive and they too, but it's just one of the outcomes from anger. We never do take it personally, would apologize, and remain to be close.
Don't dump your friends over just this. Good friends are hard to find and you'll likely regret it later - we all have sudden outcomes to our anger. Think about what made them angry and what did you do to make them angry. Think about it from their point of view and make out how it made them angry. Talk it over with them, say that you apologize but that you would like them to not talk about you behind your back and why it hurted your feelings in a calm and collected manner.
NEVER dump your friends over such a small manner. I'm available for farther discussion.
2006-12-17 06:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by Pariah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had this same thing occur to me within the past few days, so I'm the kind of person that says what needs to be said. so i confronted her on it. well, it took her by surprise that i would do that, and she did not have much to say about me then. the thing is sometimes you have to confront the people, so that they know you are aware of what they are saying and let them know that your not just going to stand back and take it, that if they have something to say then they need to say it to you, and stop being a bunch of cowards by talking behind your back, then walk away.
2006-12-17 06:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that can be a hard situation to deal with. i had a similar issue with a few of my friends. my suggestion to you would be that you need to be upfront to your friend(s). let the know what you've been hearing (don't take any names though) and give them a chance to present their side of the issue. don't make accusations though. start with "i've been hearing that........" let me know how things work out.
2006-12-17 06:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ruh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
funny...they're talking about you behind your back and you're still calling them *friends*?
I'd say *fiends* would be a better word
2006-12-17 20:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by Malfoy vs Potter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE CALM AND BE AS USUAL. GIVE TIME AND BE GOOD WITH THEM.NOT ONLY WILL THEY CHANGE THEIR ATTITUDE BUT ALSO WILL BECOME MORE FRIENLY TO YOU. LOVE COVERETH MULTITUDE OF SINS. RAJA
2006-12-17 06:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by RAJA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what you did to cause that and decide whether they really are your friends...
2006-12-17 06:46:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'd just ignore them... they can't be mad forever. or talk to them about it.
2006-12-17 06:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by ♥heartbroken♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋