i have a really close friend, who i love very much. he/she comes to stay with me often. but the last 3 times they have been they have done something quite bizarre. first they trash my house more or less everytime they visit. he/she left & locked me & my son out of the house, luckily the window was open so we did get in. I went away whilst they stayed in my house and i borrowed their overnight bag, i left my passport in there, i know i did, and they are denying they have it. smoking in my bedroom after being politely asked not too. spilt coffee on my carpet & never attempted to clean it up or tell me. poured ashtrays over the carpet?? broke my cooker and never told me. took my clothes out of my drawers and put them on the floor (4 drawers worth of clothes!). I know i am moaning about them and probably seem an awlful friend. i have spoken to them about what they are doing but he/she gets angry and upset (i don't want that). so what shall i do, stick by them or distance myself
2006-12-17 06:37:30 · 12 answers · asked by zoezeph 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hi, im sorry , but they are taking the P**S out of you. I would give them there last warning and if they do it again they would be out. No one should treat a friend the way they have treated you and your house. You are not moaning, you are doing what every person would do if your situation. Dont have them stay no more, If they fall out with you then there not really your friends. They have no reason to get angry its your house for got sake. Get them out, you have a son also so think about him to.
2006-12-17 07:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to put your foot down. they cant be real friends if they have no respect for your house or belongings. you dont seem like an awful friend at all. you must respect your friend alot and care about there feelings because most people would have flipped by now, you need to try and make them understand that what there doing is wrong, and that your not gonna take it for much longer. what works best for me is not to say it straight to there face but hint about it. facial expression are good to use, and also body language. and if they no you well enough they will no what your getting at without you even saying a word.
hope this helps.
happy xmas!!!
2006-12-17 15:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by no angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person cannot possibly be a close friend. A friend is a person who loves you and therefore respects you and your house rules. I see none of that in your description. Kick this person out, change your number and get your passport out (report it to the police if you have to). Once that person is out of your life, you'll have more space, time and energy to let interesting, fun and respectful people in your life.
2006-12-17 15:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by Stef 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go straight up to them and tell them your feelings, if they are good friends with you then they should accept your feeliongs without resorting to anger. If not, then distance yourself because they are not your friends anymore. Sorry, but there must be many other people willing to abide by your personal views and opinions so go look for them!
2006-12-17 14:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by The Friendly Polar Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are taking advantage of your love for them. Bugger them off!! These friends don't deserve you. Your child does not need this sort of people in his life. They destructable, selfish, abusive and dirty. Kick them out. You will receive no respect from them. They will not listen to you if you don't show them who is boss. Be strong!
2006-12-17 19:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by idfg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend is taking advantage of your genorosity.
give them a chance to apologise and repair and pay for things they have broken.
if they do not get rid of them. as they will keep doing this.
also i think your friend maybe into drugs. i.e weed/heroin and is selling your stuff to get more.
2006-12-17 14:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just distance yourself, cut them out of your life completely.
How rude to do all that and then get upset when you ask them about it. They are not friends so please get rid of them before they get worse.
Good luck xxx
2006-12-17 19:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd just forget about them-if they ask why be truthful, but don't be so pathetic as to keep a wide berth, just don't be so 'friendly' in the future
2006-12-18 07:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by arydia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looooooooooots of distance. this person is a horrible selfish individual and is not a friend in my book
2006-12-17 14:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by polydoodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if their disobeying ur rules then i think u should kick them out..
2006-12-17 14:42:58 · answer #10 · answered by kandiiez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋