my gf and i have been together 4 about 7 months and about 3 years prior to us getting together she told me she was into me and i brushed her off cuz i wuz an immature skank. she got a bf like 6 months after this and they had sex like 6 months after that and then he broke up with her a week later.she went through a slight depression and had pretty low self esteem untill we got together. i cant help thinkin that if i would've given her the time of day then she wouldnt have lost her vigrinity 2 a total ******** and she wouldnt have had to go through everything she went through. should i be blaming myself 4 this
2006-12-17 06:02:15 · 7 answers · asked by nickizzle4rizzle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You shouldn't feel bad or blame yourself for what she chose to do with her life. It was her choice to date him and her choice to sleep with him. Just be happy that you are together now.
2006-12-17 06:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by airtightreality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Victoria, I am sorry to listen to that there's a little bit of disrespect for your residence---however a 33 yr ancient will by no means transfer out if mother is dottering and spoiling him---why will have to he pass?? predicament is he's going to by no means study how one can peacefully co-exist with a girl on a mature stage...what a disgrace. You also are witnessing just a little of crude disrespectful conduct that comes from being household and residing in combination these types of years. To an interloper this all sounds horrible--to you and your brother it is only each day residing. So say no in case you ought to--he may not explode or flip blue. Relax, be cool, be quality, and well good fortune-----SMILE
2016-09-03 17:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by winkels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you need to blame yourself for this. you could have never known that she would go through that. and she made the choice herself to date this other guy and have sex with him. if she didn't choice to have sex with her and he made her then she should have went to the police. but whatever you do don't blame yourself! like i said you could have never know what was going to happen because you didn't started dating her right when she liked you. it's okay to be sorry she went through those thing cause i went through it myself as a female and my husband doesn't blame himself but he does wish i would have never went through that. and my husband and i are now 21 and just married. we got together the beginning of our senior year. you just got to be there for her when she is feeling down and she should do the same for you. but always talk and be honest. my husband and i know almost everything about each other past, what we want, how we want to raise our family and he is my best friend. i can talk to him about anything cause he lets me open up and even talk about things he may think our stupid but i think our important with him. that is what make a very strong loving relationship. good luck and i hope all works out for the best. but don't blame yourself!
2006-12-17 06:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened in the past is just that: past...don't feel bad about it now...because guess what? you are and will treat her like a queen...and you will help her forget all about that experience...and you will make it up to her with every little sweet action you do....
Treat her well....and don't feel bad about anything now...you made a mistake in the past by bruhing her off but you are not responsible for what that guy did to her...he should feel guilty, not you...plus, you have already corrected your mistake by being with her now and treating her very well now right?
Forget about the past and enjoy every moment with her!
Good Luck!
2006-12-17 06:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this isnt about you is it,,it is about how she feels about her choices,,she may have chosen planks to go out with but no one made her sleep with them did they,,,she may just be one of those people who need to make a lot of mistakes for none to ever be repeated,,folk are funny and we are all different.you didnt like her then but you do now and if she is so bad at getting over things even after she has started to date someone else it may take much more than your guilt to sort her,,it is likely something she needs to do for herself.
2006-12-17 06:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can feel bad about the brushing her off part b/c that is a bit rude. but u can't feel bad about her choices after that point.
2006-12-17 06:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by mistress_ 9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2006-12-17 06:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋