I have been married for 9 years and I have 5 beautiful kids. When I first met my husband and we were dating my husband's parents loved me. After our first child was born I suffered a bout of severe postpartum depression and I went to the hospital for psychiatric treatment voluntarily. My mother in law was cruel to me when I was released not even telling my husband I was out so he could come get me and I waited five hours to be picked up. That was in 1997 shortly after we were married.
Now I have more health problems. I not only suffer from depression and anxiety but I have seizures and migraines and I take medications that have affected my moods and have caused horrible side effects. They have rejected me.
For Xmas they gave my hubby a $50 gift certificate to a store he likes and a book about what a great son he is. I got a refrigerator magnet. Do you guys think my husband should stand up for me? He just seems to let them get away with treating me badly. I have stood up for him.
2006-12-17 05:45:00 · 11 answers · asked by Cute But Evil 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have really had a lot of problems health wise. I think your husband should tell his parents to either accept you or to leave him alone. The marriage vows said Forsaken All Others and if can't be treated equal than just don't bother either of you again. Take that Little cheap magnet or perhaps some company sent them as a advertisement gift, send it back and tell them that you don't use magnets on your ref. or you already have enough , but thanks anyway, take that gift certificate get something for your home. You have 5 children to hell with those rude people.
2006-12-17 05:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here are our ideas on how to tame in-law troublesif they won’t accept you.
The reason maybe that perhaps they don’t feel that you and your family meet their standards. Mirroring their behavior will only cause greater problems, whereas being repectful and kind gives them nothing additional to work off of. That doesn't mean letting them insult you; it means not participating on their level. Make your feelings clear to your husband so that he can back you up when a boundary is crossed. f an in-law lets loose with a more cutting remark, say, about your parent's financial situation, stay calm but state, "That comment was hurtful and inappropriate. If you say something like that again, we're going to have to leave." Learn to pick your battles, but definitely stick to your boundaries. If you and your spouse agree on boundaries, the consequences of them being crossed, and stick to them, the situation can be managable if not happy.
Dealing with the in-laws may not be all fun and games, or much fun at all, but following the basic rules of respect, generosity, and kindness should take you a long way.
2006-12-17 13:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by bibus75 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, God, don't even get me started--my future mother in-law is a total b!thc-----she is controlling manipulating and i hate her---my fiance will not tell her no, so i started being a b!itch right back at her and she was like "oooh you are feisty today" and i just give her a taste of what she is doing to me and i just leave whenever she is a ***** and dont talk to her---when she gets lonely enough she comes around, but if something does not change real soon, i will go to town on her so bad she will not know what hit her---she needs to be put in her place---she is ruining her only son's chances at adult relationships and she does not know it. Oh well, she will get it one day!
2006-12-17 14:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he should stand up for you that is insane, they have no right to be treating you like that, and you need to tell him how you feel about it, men are dude when it comes to things like that or better yet why dont you ask what the problem is. You have givin them 5 grandkids they should be helping you not hurting you.
2006-12-17 14:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by ncgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I deal with the same situation with my inlaws. My husband stands up for me some but not enough. I finally got sick of waiting on him to do it and called them up and gave them a piece of my mind. It really didn't help much but I felt better afterwards!!
2006-12-17 13:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by Bekka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes he should, but some men are like that when its time to stand up to there family for there wife, just stop going over there to see them and don't buy them anything for xmas. you have alot to deal with and you don't need to be around people like that. take care of yourself. sorry you have crazy in-laws.
2006-12-17 19:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by Daya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex never stood up for me. His parents were evil too. You should develop a damn care attitude about how they treat you, and your gifts to them should be refridgerator magnets too.
2006-12-17 15:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by crazyloonynice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should stand up for you. He is your husband and if he loves you then he should stand up for you you are his wife and a big part of his life if he really did care about you then he would defend you to no end.
2006-12-17 14:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should stand up for you. The inlaws need to take the good with the bad....you are the mother of their grandchildren.
2006-12-17 13:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lovinlife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You married him...not them. Unless you live in the same house I would put it out of your mind. Gifts do not make a difference...the relationship does. They do not want want....they lose!
2006-12-17 13:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by bethybug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋